So I was able to land a date yesterday at an event I go to every Sunday. I've known her for about a month now and have gotten to know her. I finally took the plunge and asked her out, in person, to a date on next Saturday. (That's the only free time in her schedule). We'll be seeing a movie and dinner afterwards.
Now, landing dates is rare for me, maybe 2 or 3 times a year. So it's a big deal for me. But every time I get one, my mind starts jumping and fantasizing about the future. Like, "have I finally found the one?" And I start thinking of all the other dates we could do, the little moments together, etc. Everything I want in a relationship. And we haven't even had our first date yet, so I know this is unhealthy. Several times I catch myself and criticize myself because 1. I'm getting ahead of myself. And 2. This affects my anxiety, like these fantasies always make me feel like "don't fuck this up" and stuff like that.
How do I stop these fantasies and getting ahead of myself? How do I play it cool? I really like her, we have so much in common and she makes me feel better about life. I really don't want to fuck this up, but I know this mentality isn't healthy.