I met a guy from Tinder in person. We had various phone calls and bonded over similar interests, goals and faith. He mentioned living alone and having no family locally.
He also mentioned having a crohns disease surgery in a couple days. An ostomy bag(poop bag) would be involved. I felt bad for him and offered to help him and stay in the hospital overnight with him. He was extremely happy to hear this and kept saying how I was "wife material".
Anyway, we ended up going on a date and all went well. After lunch, a museum visit and him taking me shopping, we went to his place. We somehow briefly got into a steamy and taboo "religious play" situation. We fooled around a bit but nothing overly sexual though as I'm a virgin. It was more so just verbal and sensual. We then hang out in his pool and talked a lot. I stayed overnight in his guest room. The next day was normal and we were bonding and head over hills over each other. We barely ate and slept as were cuddling and talking for the 2 days straight. It was very intense.
However, he tried to get on top of me and demand a handjob or blowjob from me. I said "NO" and ran away from his bed. He decided to drive me back to my house. I was quietly crying in the car the whole time and he was silent but offered tissues. When we arrived near my place, he parked his car and we had a conversation over what had happened. He ended up apologizing and deleted his tinder account to try to prove to me that he was "serious" about me. I also decided to delete my tinder account right after.
I mentioned getting my clothes to go back to his place to help him prepare for the hospital visit the following day. He said he needed space for 1 day and that he would call me on Tuesday after the surgery was done so that I could come help him.
He left and I never heard back from him.
3 days passed without contact and when I called, my calls would go straight to voicemail. I decided to call the hospital directly. I went through 4 different people on the phone to finally get through his hospital room.
He answered and said he was doing okay. There was then an awkward silence. He then said he didn't want me to call him ever again. He said were not a match and that he didn't feel comfortable with me calling him. His tone of voice was cold, dismissive, and condescending.
He sounded like a different person, totally out of character and off. I asked him why as I was confused and needed reassurance but he brushed me off and said he needed to go with the nurses. I tried to hide my sad voice so I immediately said "okay good luck" and hang up the phone. He then blocked me I think on his actual phone. I sent him a text message and email wishing him well despite feeling sad that he would discard me so easily.
What happened or what went wrong? Was I led on? Why ask for help and then do a whole 360?
I've never encountered a reaction so harsh like this from a man before… I'm lost.