Why do men put these two things in their bio when they’re opposites? I honestly don’t understand, its so confusing so to avoid further confusion in future when i see fun casual dates in bio i immediately swipe left idc if you liked me. You’re not about to waste my time.
No one is looking for a real relationship anymore. Today i downloaded Bumble and 95% of the guys are looking for fun casual dates and intimacy without commitment.
This might sound harsh but i ended up writing in my bio don’t swipe right on me if you’re not looking for anything serious, i am not interested in fun casual dates because i was just tired but it didn’t work, they are still swiping right. I am about to delete that app.
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> Men which one is it that you’re looking for? Long term relationship or intimacy without commitment?
These days I only do FWBs, sutuationships, and the occasional ONS.
> Why do men put these two things in their bio when they’re opposites?
Dunno. Mental illness? Stupidity? Both?
> No one is looking for a real relationship anymore.
Well… yes and no. Guys with plenty of options usually don’t. Guys with few or no options would love a “real relationship” but they can’t get any.
> Today i downloaded Bumble and 95% of the guys are looking for fun casual dates and intimacy without commitment.
Yeah, welcome to 2025.
Dude men just swipe right on most people you have to filter out the matches yourself as a woman.
This has always been the state of play
You can check this [source](https://bedbible.com/online-dating-statistics/) (self-reported, by the way).
It **starts** by saying 73% of men and 87% of women want something romantic, but when you actually look at the details, this is what it says they are looking for:
| | Total | Men | Women |
|:—–:|:—–:|:—–:|:—–:|
| Long-term romance | 30% | 30% | 29% |
| Go on 1+ date(s) | 40% | 34% | 47% |
| Friendship | 12% | 12% | 13% |
| Hookup | 18% | 24% | 11% |
So really, based on that, only about 30% of people want a relationship – but since it’s self-reported, the real number might be lower (people lie and/or think they want something but they don’t). About 40% don’t know what they want (they’re “figuring it out” I guess), and the rest want friends or hookups.
Personally I’d love a more long term, but I’ve given up on OLD, I never seem to get any actual matches. All I ever seem to get are scams and fakes.
I’m a girl who just wants fun casual dates but I’m celibate so I don’t match with dudes who use those words to mean sex. I mean actual fun, going out and laughing, trying new bars and restaurants. These idiots mean 5 seconds of jackhammering
Long term
It means looking for long term, but dont mind also ons or so if a women is only looking for it.
Girl you have to do a lot of work filtering. I took a break from dating apps since I was having the same issues. I’ve made sure to look a guys profile over and make sure it says he wants something long lasting or serious but when the dates happen sometimes it’s the complete opposite. Ig it’s a lot of weeding out the guys who want casual fun to look for the guy for you. Even guys have the same issues we’re having. Me and my brother talk about this. Dating for something real is hard.
Long term, exclusively.
It’s a swipe right for me and signals they aren’t sure.
A lot of emotional connection and a lot of intimacy
Open to both depending on the woman
I can’t even find ONS candidates that look like they’re not strung out or know how to use a shower. 🤣
Former, though not looking for anyone anymore. I wouldn’t be able to do the latter.
The last guy I was seeing put on his profile that he was looking for a long-term relationship when he was really looking for something casual. I think he just wanted more matches. But when I called him out on it, he says to me “People actually read those?!” 🙄
So even if they put that they are looking for a long-term relationship on their profile, most of them aren’t and they just want more matches. So it just creates more work filtering them out.
Can only speak for myself, I want long-term but I’m open to short if one or both of us is into that in the moment. Also casual fun dates are essentially on the path to determining any long term compatibility
I had a man tell me (I met him in person) that he would like an “intimate partner” but he absolutely did not want a relationship! I still cannot think of what this means other than he wanted a FWB or booty call.
He also swore up and down that he did not want a FWB with me…. I think he is confused.
Because I wouldn’t be intimate with him he asked me if I had been raped at some point in my life? What? No.
They are not really opposides, depending on the man.
A long term relationship is like reaching the peak of Mt. Everest, casual intimacy is like climbing halfway on the mountain and being happy that you even got to do it at all.
I have some experience with Bumble, but not as a woman.
All that I can say is that you either have bad luck and find the wrong people, or those men also looked for ling term commitment, couldn’t find it, so they settled for casual dating.
to me, it’s not so complicated, i usually have a combination of both. i’m looking for a long term relationship (in my opinion… everyone is, in their own way, even if they say they’re not), but if after a few dates i don’t really see long term potential, i would still be down to continue to date in a more casual way, i would typically communicate this if that was the case, and if it’s not reciprocated we can just part ways
If you extend the talking period and reject low effort dates, it can weed out a lot of the men looking for short term fun
Intimacy without commitment leads to long term relationship. Intimacy>LTR>commitment. Women are hung up on commitment and don’t realize it is the natural progression of an intimate relationship, not the start of one.
Cause the dating conversation has become what you can do for me. Its selfish you want a relationship but no one will put the effort.
I’m a 41M and on Bumble, I have fun casual dates and long term relationship. I would like to find a long term relationship, but it seems like having fun casual dates is how I would meet that woman and develop a relationship.
A long term relationship would be ideal but I’ll take intimacy without commitment if that’s all I can get.
The short answer yes
The long answer I want a best freind who also happens to be my lover but I don’t belive that’s out there for me so I’ll take the sex and especially physical intimacy where I can get it atleast somewhat comfortably cause even just getting long hugs for me is rare, best I can hope for is a short goodbye hug when visiting family
As others of kind of said… guys that put that in the profile are often times open to just having sex or if the person is great to them, it could be something long-term. As a guy, who we are willing to sleep with, and who we are open to committing to, can be completely different.