I (f23) woke up one morning to a message from one of my best friends saying this girl was flirting with my fiancé (m24). I know the girl but we aren’t friends and she’s never spoken to me in my life. We have mutual friends so I questioned them and my fiancé and they assured me she wasn’t flirting and my best friend was exaggerating. My friend does tend to blow things out of proportion and I had no evidence so I left it, but I was still suspicious.
The other night i was on Snapchat and looked in to my “ignored friend requests” and to my surprise it was full of guys I thought I was friends with. I realised my fiancé went on to my Snapchat and deleted them which I wasn’t mad about because I didn’t talk to them anyway. Out of curiosity I looked into my fiancés ignored friend request and the first person on the list was that girl that was flirting with him a few weeks before. I questioned him and he lost his shit at me and got really defensive called me crazy insecure etc. He said she added him and he ignored the friend request and didn’t want to tell me as he knew I would be angry and I already wanted to beat the shit out of her🫠which could be the case but my ignored friend requests are full of people he’s deleted off my Snapchat so you can see why I am suspicious. she already followed him on instagram and Facebook which i didn’t care too much about as it’s more social and he mostly just posts photos of us and our daughter. But Snapchat is personal and I wouldn’t dare go and add another girls partner on anything and have no desire to.
He could be telling the truth and just ignored her friend request, but part of me is still suspicious that they were friends and he deleted her and there’s something going on. I don’t know this girl on a personal level despite being friends on social media and having mutual friends so I dont trust her and my fiancé is acting suss as well. I even tested it last night and deleted some people on Snapchat and ignored some previous friend requests. The people I deleted were at the top of the list and the friend requests I ignored were down the bottom. I feel so pathetic but I just have a feeling there’s something more going on. Has anyone else had this problem or can give me more info about ignored friend requests ? I can’t let it slide and feel annoyed that he’s gone and deleted people off my Snapchat but is so secretive with his. I’ve never given him any reason not to trust me as I am at home with our daughter every day, whereas he is out drinking every weekend and Is suspicious af