The problem is not restricted to dating, but it expands to life in general, from career, to friendship to whatever.
And it extends to all genders.
Everyone wants to do whatever they do, but then, when things don't work out, they don't want to take responsibility for their own actions, for the very decisions that they have made, they want to re-write history, they blame the other party/ies, the world, society, whatever.
Take responsibility for your actions and decisions; ennjoy your agency; when things don't go your way, observe reality, learn a lesson (if there's one) and move on.
I love my agency. I do a lot of things, I make a lot of decisions; I love my life and everything it has to offer.
Do things go 100% as intended? LOL, no. But even when they don't I do recognize that it was my decisons/actions that were the major contributors. Are people crazy, unreliable, or fake? Sure, they are. So? We can't change that, can we?
And in dating, enjoy what you have, and if you want more, there's probably something you can do to get that "more"; it often involves (a lot) of work: are you willing to put in the work? Or are you expecting the world to bend backward because you keep telling yourself "I know my worth"?
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The moment I understood all of the above, my life changed. I love my life.