Okay so I'm 21M and gay as hell, but genuinely the only thing I ever find arousing and stimulating is giving head. I don't want to top, I don't want to bottom, I don't want to receive head, I really, really just like sucking dick. The issue is that every time I've had a relationship that reached a sexual level, my partners always want to try and get me off, and it does the exact opposite. And I can never get it through to them?? I've had instances where I completely lost my erection when they started focusing on me.
I have to close my eyes and focus really hard to get off "for them", and it really dampers my overall enjoyment.
I genuinely have no clue how to not have this be an issue that comes up? How do I find someone that's fine with only one sexual activity happening? Or how do I get more comfortable doing literally anything else?