For context me and my cousin are 26F. My cousin for her whole life struggled with obesity. She dealt with guys never liking her back and as a result she swore off relationships. Then almost 2 years ago she met this guy and they’ve been together ever since.
My dad and I also noticed some concerning behaviors from the boyfriend. Nothing that would indicate that he’s abusive towards her but indicating he does not have proper emotional regulation and can’t seem to get over minor inconveniences – which could lead to future abuse.
As a result from the behaviors we saw my dad thinks the guy is insecure and is only with my cousin since no other man would look at her. He told me how the boyfriend being at a healthy weight with my cousin who’s obese is a potential marker of insecurity on his part because he’s actually gotten cheated on in the past.
I believe my cousin is deserving of genuine love as she’s a good person. I’d hate to see her in a situation like this. I’ve been in an abusive relationship before which I just got out of, I’m afraid to speak up as it might sound like jealousy from my part. I can’t say anything to our grandmother (both her parents have passed) about what me and my dad have assessed on his behaviors or else she will think we’re trying to sabotage the relationship.
I’m curious to what you all have experienced. Have you ever seen a situation like this or similar in your life? How did it turn out? I’m not trying to look for validation on me and my dad’s observations I’m looking to see what others have seen because I’m curious how often This happens.
TL;DR
My dad thinks that my cousins boyfriend is only with her because she’s obese and doesn’t want
Other men looking at her. He has a past of being cheated on. I’m wondering if these things happen often. I also can’t say anything or else I’ll be seen as jealous.