I’m (19F) and he’s (19M).
We’ve only known each other for 2 weeks, yet we’ve gotten close fast — like really fast. It’s almost too quick, and I can’t tell if it’s because there’s genuine attraction or if we’re both just filling some kind of emotional gap.
Personally, I’m not attached yet, but he definitely seems to be. I’m not bothered by that — in fact, I feel safe around him, and I think he feels the same. He’s told me several times that he’s “very sensitive.” He’s nice to me, but also extremely insecure.
Then he told me outright that he wants to rely on me emotionally because he has no one else in his life. I said that’s fine, but I also told him he still needs to love and trust himself — otherwise, depending on others could hurt him more in the long run.
He didn’t take it well, and then told me:
“If I could rely on myself, I wouldn't need to rely on others. So, if you care about me not getting hurt, it might come off as an ultimatum, but ultimately, it’s up to you.”
I wasn’t trying to push him away; I just wanted to be honest and look out for him. Then he basically asked, “Will you let me or not?” (meaning, will I let him depend on me emotionally). I said yes.
Now I’m stuck wondering — is this healthy? Is he just using me? Or does he genuinely like me, and this is just his way of showing it?
TL;DR: Met a guy 2 weeks ago, we got close quickly. He’s nice to me, very sensitive, but super insecure. Wants to emotionally rely on me because he has no one else. I told him to also work on loving himself, and he replied with a message explaining why he can’t. Unsure if this is healthy dependence, him using me, or genuine affection.