I’m struggling to understand the justification behind people in relationships cheating as opposed to breaking it off.

I recently had an experience where the guy I was dating cheated on me then justified it. The guy I used to date, we had discussed our future in great detail and had plans set up. Then I find out from my friend that he cheated on me. I was livid and confronted him for it. We argued about it and during the argument he broke up with me.


10 comments

  1. It takes much more moral fortitude and honesty to do that, it’s much easier to just cheat if you don’t have the guts to tell someone and if you’re careful you can get the both of best worlds. It’s best that you broke up with this person, they weren’t the right one for you.

  2. The cheaters find it hard to break up with someone in alot of cases but they are never sorry they only time cheating is acceptable is in a DV incident where is very diffculty to leave

  3. This is no reflection on you OP, you can’t change others & I hope this has at least shown you the signs displayed by manipulators/ cheaters so you can protect yourself going forward

    Im sorry this has happened

  4. People cheat for many reasons like selfishness, lack of self-control, or wanting both security and excitement without ending the relationship.

  5. There is no justification. Cheaters are too little to approach issues like adults, they do this stupid thing instead of dealing with actual problems. Cheating is never a reflection of the victim or of the situation that the two people are in, its the cheater revealing that they are incapable of acting responsibly in the most vile way imho. You are worthy of love OP. That guy is not the person who you need to seek it from. You CAN do better, this was not your fault. Cheaters often hide their true natures so they can use and manipulate others, do not feel like you did anything wrong. You did the best thing anyone can do, you put your trust in another person it’s not your fault they lied about who they were. If you need someone to talk to please reach out. Fuck cheaters, your life is so much better without that garbage in it.

  7. Its easier to the alternative. Be it separation, disclose problems and go through the effort of solving them.

  8. I know some are afraid as the see the relationship starting to fail, that they are afraid to be left alone again. So better just be ahead of it. Not that that justifys any of it

  9. He broke up with you because you held him accountable. That situation is seriously awful, but it isn’t your fault. People don’t cheat because of their partner, it’s something within themselves. 

  10. The obvious answer, someone feels like something is lacking in their relationship.

    Be it sex. Physical and/or emotional attraction.

    The reasons can be factual or not, but cheating is not justified either way.

    Biologically speaking, one unfortunate thing against us humans as well – we are not designed to be monogamous. We socially transitioned into it, since it was much safer for humans to survive being monogamous, specifically for their offspring. We are basically pandas of sex (pandas are not naturally herbivores and supposed to also include meat in their diet).

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