I'm just tired. I’ve been going on dates, not constantly, but enough to feel like I should’ve at least made some kind of progress by now. The conversations are fine, the vibes seem okay, sometimes even great. But then… nothing. Either they ghost, say they’re not feeling a connection, or we both just slowly stop talking.
It’s exhausting to keep showing up, trying to be open, trying to be real and it always ends up back at square one. I don’t expect fireworks on the first date, but is it too much to ask for some forward momentum? I'm starting to feel like I’m wasting my time, energy, and honestly, hope.
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I get it, dating burnout is real. Take a break if you need to. The right connection will come without forcing it.
Honestly, I think the entire younger half of the population is just exhausted and depressed and kind of angry, and those aren’t very romantic feelings. Most people have a hard time letting new people in when they’re not feeling happy or optimistic in general.
A couple weeks ago I told myself this was going to be my last hinge date either because this one is going to work out or I’m deleting the app in frustration.
So naturally after a date where we had banter leading up to and on the date I got the “didn’t feel a connection” text. I deleted hinge.
Unfortunately you need to have thick skin in dating, i get it’s frustrating though. The best you can do is go with the flow and not be too hopefully on certain connections.
Also do keep in mind if something turns exclusive, it could also go awry, you may or may not end up having that person as a married partner- i remind myself of this in hopes i don’t get too invested.