I matched with this beautiful woman on Hinge, and after just a few messages we agreed to meet a week from then. I told her I wanted to take her to a cafe and she immediately said that she would love to, and told me when she was free. That honestly shocked me; a woman immediately saying and setting a date was a pleasant surprise.

We texted throughout the week leading up to the date. Had a single phone call the night before to finalize our plans.

We met the day of, and she was even prettier than her pictures. We spent about an hour at the cafe and decided to relocate to a Mexican restaurant. She tried something she’s never eaten before and loved it.

We spent a solid 90 minutes there then we decided to walk around a nearby lake. We’re in Florida so it was HOT during the day but I didn’t even care; I just wanted more time with her.

5 minutes into walking, she said it was too hot (lol) and she wanted to chill out a bit. I asked if she wanted to leave, and she clarified that she wanted to sit on the grass by the water. We ended up chatting for about an hour, pretty much laying down on the grass.

Our feet were playfully touching, and her eye contact was piercing into my soul. She had a certain look in her eyes and I was sure she wanted a kiss. I told her I wanted to kiss her. She looked bashful, a bit surprised, and excited all at once. I’m not one for PDA but I couldn’t help it. It wasn’t simply a peck, it was fantastic.

We hung for a few more minutes then decided to leave. I asked for her hand as we walked back to my car, she obliged. After driving her back, I got a few more kisses. Hoping to see her again this following week.

I know there’s been some discussing about whether or not to ask for a kiss. In all honesty, I don’t think I had to ask based on her body language and energy. But I wanted to show my respect for her while directly communicating my intentions. And I’m very glad I did. Cheers and good luck everyone.


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  3. Lean in slowly and let her respond. She’ll either move to making it smoother, or be shocked and pull away. Then you either kiss her or apologize for reading the room wrong

  6. I asked after dinner on the 1st date then we got ice cream. Together for a year next weekend. Good luck!

  7. If shes feeling me, I usually do the whole “hey come here” when she comes, pull her closer, ask her “can i kiss you?” Then put your hand under her chin to lift her face up. She says yes, then kiss her.

    Works all the dam time. But only tried it sometimes. Usually when I know she’d say yes.

  8. Great story! Congrats 🎉
    I also met my man on hinge and felt all kinds of sparks and chemistry on our first date and we were exclusive by date #2 😊
    Good luck to you!

  9. When my wife and I started dating we were at the pub. I said I’m going to get us some drinks, but if you’re still here when I return I’m going to kiss you, if you’re not at least I will have two drinks to drink. We’ve been married 17 years. Still not sure if she wanted the drink or kiss more, but I’m too scared to ask.

  10. Success!!

    I love when guys ask for a kiss. Personally it shows me that they’re attracted to me and they respect boundaries. Green flag all the way.

    Just as an fyi for the guys who don’t know how to ask – If you don’t want it to be super formal just tell her a compliment and that you want to kiss her and read her reaction.

  11. I don’t think I’ve ever been asked if it’s OK to kiss. It’s just naturally occurred after maintaining close eye contact. You can usually tell where its at with body language. No harm in it though, and cute really.

  13. Haha I’ve never even had to think about this because if I like the guy I can pretty much always tell he’ll kiss me and I just go for it if he doesn’t and it feels right. Congrats though!!

  14. Congratulations, OP! I’m glad you and your date had a wonderful time together while being respectful of the boundaries, and I wish you the best of luck!

  15. That’s a sweet story! Hopefully you get your second date soon. You both sound smitten.

  16. Cuuuute. Also asking if it’s ok to kiss is very sweet and attractive to me. Ofc I can only speak for me

  17. Asking is generally a safe bet. Most women will like the respect and care for not pressing her boundaries. Sure some will say it ruins the spontaneous nature of it but that is not the majority.

    If you want to go for a nonverbal version then never go 100 percent of the way. Go like 80 percent of the way, she should get the idea. At that point she can pull away, say something or go for it. It is a non verbal way to show your intent and put yourself in a vulnerable spot while handing her control so she can decide what she wants.

  19. You did it right. State your desire and allow her to respond. If she looks at your lips and goes back to looking at your eyes, she’s interested. However interest still needs to be followed up with consent.

    Failure to gain consent and just going for it leads to mixed signals plausible deniability and potential social and legal consequences later.

    If you ask permission then you become the child asking permission from mommy. (Instant turn off)

    If you go for it and she’s not into you then there is potential for assault claims.

    If you go for it and she engages one thing leads to another and she wants to stop before you get there and you do. Because you failed to get consistent there is a potential for assault claims.

    If you go for it and she engages and later something comes up in a conversation later and she regrets it after the fact then there is potential for assault claims.

    You did it right, state your desire and allow her to respond. There are thousands of ways to stat those desires. Those lips look….
    Amazing, do they taste as good as they look?
    Good enough to eat.
    Soft, I want to know if they feel as soft as they look.

    She can grant or deny consent in any number of ways without it being awkward or creepy.

  21. I like being asked. Or, I once had a guy tell me he wanted to kiss me, and that was sweet too.

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