Hey, I am 19 male and my girlfriend is 20 female. We have been dating since late June 2024, and she has been living with my folks ans I since mid october 2024. At first, everything was great. We always got along, agreed on which movies to watch, what to eat, etc etc. Recently though, thinks are souring.
Ive been working full time since around the time we started dating, bringing in a paycheck for us both to live off of. But she hasnt. She is yet to bring a cent to the table besides the occasional ebt refill, and some grants since she is in college. Thankfully she has training for a new job she was hopefully hired to tomorrow, but i have my doubts. The job is allegedly a contract where she can work whichever days she pleases for however many hours she pleases. My folks and I need her to work her ass off. I wake up at 1 30 am every day to work at 2 am till noon. 50 hours a week. Its a lot for my age, but it pays good. I feel like she doesnt want to work as hard.
More issues include my emotional and mental state. Everytime we debate or argue or whatever, she is always right. She has to be right. If i have a rebuttal its "well you shouldnt have blah blah". Her communication is also lackluster at best. It almost takes a fight just to get her to tell me if shes okay, or if shes hungry, if shes hot or cold, whatever it be. Ive told her a hundred times she needs to work on it, but its always "well its not easy to work on something like that". Please. It doesnt take over a year to work on telling your boyfriend if youre okay or not. Im about at the end of my rope.
Last thing, I always worry that if I go out with friends that she will get pissed off. I missed out on seeing Metallica (one if my fav bands) live because I didnt want her to be sad or mad or upset. Im always catering to her even though I dont want to, because if I dont i get hell for the rest of the week.
I want to end it, but she doesnt have anywhere else to live. My mom completely supports me, and I know my Dad does too (i havnt had a chance to talk to him about it yet).
Please, anyone have any advice?
TL;DR My 19M gf 20M isnt willing to bring money to the table, is uncooperative, and brings down my mental state. I also missed out on seeing Metallica live because of her.