We're currently 7 months into our relationship. Around 6 months in, I felt like something was 'off' with her as of late, so I took it upon myself to look through her phone (which I know is bad), but I did find a text from 5 months in. Clear as day, "I miss you" to her ex-boyfriend with no response.
I know based on the day and time of the text that afterwards, she got so unbelievably hammered that she called me and asked me to drive an hour to her place. I obliged and drove over, and she kept calling me and calling me back over and over again. I found out (also 6 months in) that she was going back and forth between calling me and calling him.
It took me a month to build up the courage to confront her, and because after waiting a month, I looked again and realized she had deleted all of the text and call history between them. She told me that she wasn't getting enough from me at that time, and that I should've brought it up sooner, and that she loves me and cant live without me. I'm struggling to even speak to her because it doesn't feel the same. I'm at a loss because I don't know if I can forgive that behavior, but it seems like she may be over him and I just caught it too late. Not sure what I should do?