So I posted awhile back that my girlfriend and I of 7 years nearly broke up back in the beginning of the year over the fact that she felt I was treating her more like a roommate than partner, lack of effort/intimacy, and loss of ambitions/hobbies. I agreed that I wasn't putting the effort, got complacent, and really lost myself along the way as a lost a lot of the ambitions I used to have mostly from stress from work and finding a new job. We agreed that we could fix this and continued our relationship.
Fast forward a few months she was showing me something on her computer and I noticed in her trash folder what looked like a nude. I didn't say anything at first but a few weeks later noticed another one. I should never have done this but I got suspicious and found a series of deleted nudes and hidden nudes that she had taken over the last 3 months. I originally asked on this subreddit could she just be doing it for herself and not sending them to anyone. Well fast forward to a week ago and she asked me to go into her computer to send her something. I go to send it but notice there is another tab with a preview at the top of the tab with a lewd comment. Again made the mistake of snooping when I shouldn't have and found that she was posting online her deleted nudes, making sexual comments, and engaging with random strangers online likely for the validation and sexual validation she wasn't getting fully from me. To make matters worse I see a text come through on her laptop from an old coworker she recently met up with along with another female friend and of course see the preview of the message saying she used to have a crush on that guy. I find that a friend she talks too every few months usually in relation to work or job referrals did not know she was in a 6 year relationship. Not only that but she said she never told him because of that crush. He playfully said thank you and ultimately brushed it off and she said she would calm down jokingly.
Ultimately this shook me because we never had infidelity issues over the last 7 years. I understand the issues we've had recently and have made genuine efforts to be more intentional in our time spent and being more thoughtful, better listener, and treating her truly as my partner. She never asked to meet up in secret with this guy and never engaged with the online strangers beyond a few playful messages. So right there I don't think she physically cheated nor do I think she will. But this does feel like emotional cheating and am not sure if this is something worth breaking up over or even fixable for that matter.