Hi everyone. Hope you're doing well.
So, I'm 23M. I have a twin brother and sister (both 16).
The thing is, I’ve never been on a date with anyone.
I’ve had the chance many times with different people, but I have a few problems that give me cold feet.
I'm a student in a field I hate (nursing), and it’s draining all my energy and money. (Year 4 of 4.)
I already feel like I’ve wasted four years of my life, but I’m still trying to switch to a field I enjoy (like CS), and maybe move to the US or Canada next. So I know I’m not where I want to be in life and I know that's gonna take at least a few more years to end up there. That makes finding the right person so hard.
On the other hand, my parents are getting old. They’re always arguing and fighting over absolutely nothing.
They’re at a point where their actions don’t make any sense.
I’m scared something will happen to them in the next few years—cancer, Alzheimer’s, a stroke, etc.
I don’t even know where these thoughts come from, but I just deeply feel it. I can't live with them as their actions suffer me and I can't leave them for a long time as I feel as the oldest child I have some duties on my shoulders
This makes me feel responsible for them and my younger siblings.
Now I also feel like I’m falling behind in the dating world. I don’t want to end up as that 40y/o virgin guy girls only want to “settle” with.
At the same time, I already have a lot on my plate and can’t take responsibility for another person right now.
I feel so lost and stuck.
Any advice?