The point of dating is to fall in love!!

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1. i feel like this may not be the right sub to reach your target audience because the men on this sub seem to be in majority looking for a
   long term romance

   i’m not saying what you are feeling is invalid, but as an autistic person i have been told many time to “know the audience” and to “read the room”

2. I (M21) think I fall to easily but I’ve never even asked out. I’ve liked girls that I was friends with and even I’ve talked to women I’m acquaintances with and know or maybe just met and talked with at a place we were both at but my fear of creeping them out or messing up friends is making it hard

3. I feel you! As a young woman here 23F I feel the same as well but you will find someone who genuinely loves you physically and emotionally. And treat you like a queen. All the best for it. And don’t lose hope 🫂

4. Alternatively alot of us in the dating pool fall in love wayyyyyy to easily as well. like OMG she touched my leg for 3 missisipi’s so now we are in love =P

   maybe its just the type of guy you find attractive is the type that plays hard to get

5. I’m sorry, but no.  YOUR purpose in dating is to fall in love, but not everyone wants the same thing.  Some people just want occasional companionship with no strings, or to get to know people and have some fun.  Not everyone is looking for a long term partner, and those people shouldn’t be “banned” from dating.  People SHOULD be upfront about their intentions so that people aren’t wasting time with people who don’t want the same thing.  As for the people that you’ve liked, it may just be that you weren’t right for each other.  Just because they didn’t fall in love with you doesn’t mean they’re not serious about finding a partner.  I get your frustration, and your feelings are valid, but you don’t get to dictate who’s “allowed” to date and who isn’t.

6. I agree. I only do dating because i want to fall in love with somone who falls in love with me. Besides that i do not see any point in dating.

   Im a man. If that matters.

7. Not all guys. I’m just reeling off a gal I was going hard for, things were going great for a bit, and then, literally overnight, I got ghosted. Granted, I blame myself, you never know what you did wrong when they ghost, but I’ve been analyzing and I’ve got some pointers. That said, its frustrating when you try hard and then it falls through. Like this girl checked so many boxes. lol

8. I desire long term relationship, marriage and children. I am male and 32 btw. I really dont’ care whether or not I feel like I’m falling in love. I’ve gone through enough I just want stability, safety, commitment, and companionship. If the feeling of being in love is not in the mix I’m fine if everything else is there.

9. Sigh. Ever heard of that saying, “The heart wants what the heart wants?”

   Flipped, it also means “The heart doesn’t want what the heart doesn’t want.” This stoic, emotionally hardened man who rejected you will fall in love next week if he met the woman he’s been consciously or unconsciously waiting to meet. And you should be happy that he did not think to settle for you just bec things went swimmingly well and there were no glaring red flags.

   Your goal in dating should not be to fall in love, but to give yourself the chance to meet the man who has been waiting to fall in love with you.

10. Tell that to the women I try to date, who don’t realize falling in love takes time and is a choice.

    They keep breaking us off before that connection can be made.

    It takes time, sometimes over a month. But lately, the ladies I keep finding are like “lol no spark/chemistry” after 3 dates… whereas meanwhile, I feel like we did have chemistry, because I know what no chemistry looks like.

    I swear no one knows what they actually want, or they wouldn’t recognize it if it hit them in the head.