I can't tell you the number of times someone I've been talking to on an app tells me they're not interested in seeing me because they have a normal Monday-Friday job, and therefore our "schedules aren't compatible". And it's almost always before we've ever even met in-person, so they've just decided that it won't work before even trying.


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  2. That’s adult life my fellownhuman, but we can always make time for proper connections!

  3. If someone isn’t bothered to see you they’re not that interested. So it’s a lucky save.

  4. I work 2 jobs, 7 days a week. One is a 9-5 and one is literally all day Saturdays and Sundays. I’ve had people make comments about it. If they have an issue then we aren’t compatible. If someone’s must have is someone who has weekend availability then why should they “try” anything? I don’t have that so there’s nothing to try.

  5. Speaking as a guy who works a 9-5 and has tried dating people who work all kinds of weird shifts, I get it. It sucks, but it turns meeting up with them into so much effort, more effort than someone you’ve not met up with should be worth putting in

  6. Not true.

    Almost all of my first dates ever, have been on Wednesday or Thursday nights, and they all work 9-5 type jobs.

    Its just a scenario of “if they are interested they will make time”

  7. I guess it just feels like you won’t be able to spend much time with the person if it were to get serious. I was talking to this guy last year he worked midnights and I work afternoons but he worked 7 days a week, before even trying to go on a lunch date (that’s the only time we could potentially get together) I ended things because we didn’t have much in common but even if we did it would’ve been really difficult to make that work.
    My point is someone that works a 9-5 job probably prefers to go out on weekends because during the week they’re tired or just not in the mood to go out. You could try to meet someone who also works weekends.

  8. i feel similar however its not work its kids, cuz im a dad on the weekends and care for the kids. and the women just want to go out dancing on saturday night but im playing at the park with my 6 year old pushing her on the swing instead

  9. I think it’s just an excuse. If someone was really interested, they would make it work.

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