Hey, I'm 20 and I've been balding since I was 18 and I don't know what do I do. I'm taking finasteride and minoxidil but no effects on me yet but the dermatologist said I need to be patient so I just keep taking meds.

However, I don't know what kind of haircut should I get to at least look decent? My head crown is very thin and I have widows peaks. I look fine from the front but my side profile is awful. I tried getting a buzzcut but its not recommended for widows peaks, I cant go bald because of my head shape and I cant grow any facial hair plus I have genetically fat neck and my jawline is non existent. If I'd go bald I'd look like a thumb literally.

Idk what do I do, I feel like there's no hope for me and I will never look good. I'm trying everything I can to make my hair look good but its not possible when im literally having bald spots.


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  2. I shave my head since i was about 20. If i don’t i’ll have a head full of hair within a few weeks but i hate combing it and using products. All i’m saying is there are benefits to having no hair on your head. Maybe you can grow a beard?

  3. Just accept it. The sooner, the better. No amount of hiding it will help. When you finally accept it, it will be freeing.

    Start shaving your head bald. I’ve got a mate in his late 30’s been doing it since he was 24. Can’t picture him with hair. He looks great. A lot of women like bald men too. Just embrace it.

    As a mate of mine says, “you can only fuck with the dick you’re given”

  4. The manly and confident thing to do is to accept and embrace it.

    However having a cap or two doesn’t hurt on account of not having to put spf all the time on the bold spots.

  5. Keep breathing.

    That is the only thing that really helps.

    Not against the balding itself. But to live with it.

  6. What to do?

    Own it. Embrace it. Accept it. Don’t be ashamed of it. Lean into it. Don’t try to hide it. It’s not nearly the *thing* that you’re making it out to be.

  7. I think you should consider Jason Statham. He started going bald in his late twenties but chose to embrace it. He also had a widows peak and a buzz cut. Since his early thirties, he has had more hair on his face than on the top of his head. It doesn’t seem to have hurt his career or love life – he’s a successful actor and has been with supermodel turned actress, Rosie Huntington Whiteley (Transformers: Dark of the Moon), since 2009, when he was 42 and she was 22.

    Embrace it. Look after your fitness/weight.

  8. Lean into it. I had a buddy who, by early 30s, was balding, and he tried to keep his hair, but now he just shaves his head and looks much better and his own confidence has boosted a bit.

  10. I would trust the dermatologist and be patient. In the meantime do something extreme so it looks cool at east.

    Watch Vikings for inspiration or something.

    I’m also on Minoxidil and Finasteride since 1 year and it has been working, but it did take a while to see results. Extreme styling is my fallback plan.

  11. Stick with the min and fin that shit works wonders. It’s pretty much halted my hair loss after 6 months. Hairs slowly getting thicker and denser. Won’t recover your hairline though

  12. You are asking yourself the exact questions I asked myself at 27 when I realized that there was no hope for my hair. Just embrace the bald look, you are a man.
    It’s not like we are winning any beauty standards anyways. Besides people will eventually get used to that thumb appearance you are fussing over.

    If it makes you feel better, kids love the bald look. My sister’s kids use mine to play fortune teller whenever they find me laying down on the sofa.

  13. There isn’t MUCH you can do, but I’m sure you’ve been looking around. There are laser combs that supposedly reactivate the hair pockets, creams and all kinds of things that probably don’t work, but who knows. You can actually have hair transplanted to another place. Toupet (very common in the far East) or wig. There are options.

  14. Embrace it, I always assumed I wouldn’t have a head for being bold too, until I shaved it all and went for it. Turns out, nobody really cared.

  15. Listen, man. There is one way to deal with balding – embrace it.

    Don’t just accept it. Embrace it as a part of your natural look and identity. Balding isn’t a “problem”. It’s just a feature that a lot of us guys have.

    And you know what? It’s a pretty damn good feature for most of the guys. Have you ever seen a bald guy that didn’t look badass?

    Go over to the balding subreddit and show me one guy that doesn’t look better after shaving the hair off. Can’t. They all look better in the “after” picture.

    I’m almost 31. When I started going bald, I went to a dermathologist and got a finasteride prescription. When I got home, I opened the pills, looked at them, and.. threw them in the trash.

    I told myself that if I can’t accept myself the way I am, and if that acceptance depends on these pills working, that’s not true acceptance.

    So, that day, I decided to love myself with or without hair. That day, I decided that losing hair is not a problem that I need to solve with pills.

    I’m currently still rocking a receded hairline, but when that reaches a certain point, I am looking forward to the day when I finally grab that razor and start looking badass while feeling less hot in the summers. Win/win.

    Fighting hair loss is a life long process for a guy. Once you start your pills, you can’t stop them. And even the transplanted hair will eventually fall off unless you keep taking the pills.

    Much easier to just love yourself the way nature made you.

    Lastly, if you’re worried about the dating, don’t be. Are there women who won’t like you for being bald? Sure. Are there also women that will like you *because* you’re bald? Definitely. Your dating pool might decrease in one direction but it’ll increase in the opposite one. You won’t have any issues.

  17. If you have the money to spare and it bothers you that much, get a transplant, they seem to work pretty well these days.

    If not, learn to accept and live with it, nothing else you can do.

  18. The worst part of the journey is where you are right now. The in-between phase, where you think about it all the time. When I decided to just shave it and go bald I felt so good. Just to be done with the overthinking and just move on. Luckily I also have a partner who is very supportive and find me (according to her) more attractive shaved.

  22. Let it go until there is a real solution. Luckily shaved head is as good a style as any. If you can grow a decent beard maybe do that.

  23. Meds for hair loss are cheap online and get delivered to your house, 1 mg f i n a s t i d e.
    I have used and it has reversed my hair loss and it was the only thing that worked. Give it a try for 6 months or so and see if it helps.

  24. Shave it and embrace your inner Thumbness. I mean it, fuck it. Who are you trying to impress with your haircut?

    Learn these simple things, and they will be more important than having hair:

    * How to make people laugh
    * How to cook
    * How to eat pussy like a lesbian

    Trust me. I look like Shane Gillis’ less fortunate offspring and I’ve been married to a swell gal for 30 years.

  25. r/bald sends their regards

    Instead of pouring money into prolonging an inevitably loosing fight I’d invest once in a good shaving option and call it a day.

  26. Embrace it! Much cheaper. Compensate! Much more satisfactory.

    I mean, what are you hoping for? Bring a girl home and eventually tell her you need to drug yourself to keep the appearance of hairgrowth?

  31. Just shave it off and own it. You might get a few shocked looks or cheap digs when you first do it. But people get used to it pretty quickly. Like anything it’s about confidence. If you look uncomfortable about it people will notice. If you don’t give a fk. Nobody else will either. Women are turned off by insecurity and dickheads thrive on it.

  32. Everyone here will tell you to embrace it and say fuck it and who cares. But the truth is that you care and you want to have hair and you want to look good and that’s not happening for you. And that feels shitty, bc you’re human, young and probably insecure. I’m 40 and still insecure about some stuff around my appearance. My advice is to keep using finasteride and monoxodil. Theres another supplement called gray hair rescind. I take that, and with finasteride every day and I’ve noticed a bunch of new hair growing in moving my hairline forward about a year in.

    Life is long. Try and take action in other areas that impact how you feel about your appearance, like exercise. That will improve your self esteem and take some of the pressure off of your dome piece. God speed.

  33. Why not just embrace it?

    Yul Brynner and Patrick Stewart rocked it. You can, too.

  34. I dunno. You’re approaching this from the perspective of “I can’t go bald”. Realistically… you can… and you are.

    Outside of taking an impromptu vacation to Turkey… there really aren’t many good options that don’t involve accepting that you are balding.

  35. I’ve been using rogaine for 8 months now and only started noticing results last month. It might take longer than you’re expecting.

  36. No buzz cut with widows peak? lol, what? I have a widows peak and have had a buzz cut for the majority of my life. You’ll be fine, it is the best haircut to have: No shampoo, no paying for cuts, no time wasted on styling. My hair expense is a new electric razor every 7 years or so.

  37. Shave it off man. You’ll be your biggest insecurity holding you back. No one else gives a damn. Shave your head or low buzz cut and rock it.

  38. I would say you got a typical haircut for men, they use the clippers and cut it down to at least the number two. We used to call it high and tight.

  40. Buy a trimmer, remove the guard, and buzz it once a week for the rest of your life. Bonus – save a ton of money on haircuts.

  41. How long have you been treating it? It typically takes several months to even see a bit of progress. Several years for something meaningful

  42. My hairline started receding when I was like 18. I took finasteride and minoxidil for a while but was always super self conscious about how it looked and if people could tell I was balding in certain light

    I bought a pair of clippers and have been shaving it down with those for 20+ years. Not fully bald, there is still stubble. Id much prefer to have the option of growing hair but it is what it is

    Everyone is gonna tell you to man up and shave it and while they are correct, it is a tough thing to accept. Going bald sucks. But its very common. You got this!

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