TL;DR I’m short, he is tall. Combining homes and it is kinda comical.
I was permanently banned in the relationships sub for this question. So I thought I would try here. Apparently I’m just evil because I don’t hate my partner I guess?
I 46F is 4’10” with a long torso and short arms and legs. My Partner 60M is 6’3” with long legs and arms. I’m slowly moving into his lake house. We fish a lot on lake on the property. Our fly fishing poles are always in the way. So my dear sweet man decided to hang them on the wall so we could just grab them and go. He found the studs, screwed in beautiful hooks and hung them up.
When showing me he proudly stated that I can just grab my fishing poll and go ( he works out of town and gone 80% of the time so I fish alone ). I then said I couldn’t reach it but could easily get my step ladder out of the garage and grab it. He then looked confused and said he measured it with my height in mind and I should be able to reach. I then walked up and tried to reach it. I of course could not. It was probably 8 inches out of reach. He then looked at his measurements and admitted he had calculated for a person who was 5’10”.
Every table including the kitchen table and the patio table are bar tops. Which is devils work to really short people. His truck has no running boards. Every single picture and mirror in the house is at my forehead height or higher. The lower kitchen cabinets have nothing in them and the upper ones have everything. He didn’t have a step ladder which is a staple for people like me.
I just laughed and said I loved the fishing poles exactly where they were. We are the lucky ones. Lucky to be in a relationship where height issues are the biggest issue we have.
I secretly don’t want him to get running boards for his truck because each and every time he opens my door and helps me in. Almost 3 years and I have never touched that car door.
The other day I noticed that the mirror was lowered for me. I didn’t have to tell him to do it. He just did it.
I adore this man. He is slowly curing his height blindness. Maybe next week he will make some steps so I don’t have to take a running leap to get on the bed. One can only dream.
Right now he is sitting in one of my tiny short chairs. His legs almost to his chest. This poor man.
How do we make this home fit us both. Oversized furniture makes me feel like a child and small furniture makes him uncomfortable. Size difference couples offer those tips for me and my partner.