We were going to Aldi, and I slipped up that I was considering becoming single. It was a slip of a toung more then anything else, but we finished our grocery shopping. We went back home, and I told her we were going out to eat that night. We got drinks and sushi, then went home. On the way home, we went for a walk, and I told her I was ending it with her. I told her I didn't see a future with us, and I wanted to move on with my life. She said she had also come to terms with it, and she was already planning to leave at the end of the month.
Now that it is out, she plans to leave sooner, and I plan to stay with the apartment. I found a roommate and he will live in the living room. I didn't really need that, but I would rather downgrade. I am getting a bunch of money on the 15th of Aug, and I plan to possible go on a vacation or prepare for the fall semester. I thought the relationship was fun, but the adult parts weren't, and she couldn't have kept up with me. I want to do hard things. I wanted to go backpack the Appalachian trail with the money i got from the Army, but i wanted to see if this relationship would work. It didn't, and now I get to go live my life. There is a lot I still want to do in life, so I'm not upset. I am happy I get to go do those things now, and at the age of 28.
how should I approach being single in college at the age of 28, as a veteran??
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Congrats for having the hard conversation and enjoy your future 💕 No advice for how you should approach things now but definitely enjoy getting your life back and doing all the things you have always wanted to do with it
Easy. Approach college with education and internships first. Then dating and social life.
Go travel. I did. Stay in hostels. I did. Meet different people. I did.
We always look at our past with rose tinted lenses. I did.
Good luck.
Try being single for a while. I got divorced last year and have been smashing my goals like never before as a single person. It’s good to reset between relationships.
I am also a 28 single veteran going to school. If you have a 100 and a gi bill, then the world is yours. Use this time to get in the best shape possible, travel when there’s school breaks, and build a good savings. Women come and go there’s going to be plenty opportunity to meet women in college.
You’re at your peak, honestly.
Go with the flow, try to stay calm and appropriately reasonable in your interactions with women. They/we are honestly just looking for standup companions who have a moral compass that is uncompromising, who can be goofy and not uptight, and who are willing to really talk.
If you don’t want anything serious right now, be upfront about it. It’s causes more harm than is necessary, and some of us actually understand and appreciate the honesty and will give a good romp if feeling feisty. (Just be safe about it)
Remember that women in your age range who are single are possibly divorced, possibly have kids, possibly looking to marry and have kids sooner rather than later, and shouldn’t be shamed for that because it’s naturally instinctive. The emotions role high, really quick, so if you aren’t feeling it and you know that, be quick to share that information so they don’t get too caught up in the inevitable fantasy of a life they won’t have… honestly the same goes for men too but I’m just trying to be completely honest about what I’ve observed from most of the ladies around me.
And good luck! 🍀👍