For context my (21F) boyfriend (21M) and I have been together for 3 years and seriously have been thinking about moving out together. We have housesat two different houses for family and we always play “house”. After thats over and we go home separately, we talk about how we wish to be able to go home at the end of the day to each other.
My boyfriend’s mom is buying a 4 bedroom house, but relying on 3 family members (including my boyfriend) to pitch in on mortgage. My boyfriend decided he wants to live with her since he will get his own room and ultimately own the house when his mother passes.
He has asked me to move in with him and share his room and the house with the rest of his family. I feel extremely disappointed because I dont want to move in with his family, i am not close to them at all. I feel like i would be stuck in the room afraid of using all other amenities like the kitchen. I wouldnt be moving in for free either, but splitting half of my boyfriend’s share of the mortgage. This seems incredibly unfair to me since he will have his family and I would be alone, unable to invite friends and family over to be courteous.
I need advice on what steps to make next or if i should continue to be with someone who wouldn’t see me as a priority. I am all for his mother owning a home, but I cant help feeling disappointed.