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Update from my post a few weeks back. Search warrant is in the works and should be signed by the end of the week for creepy dude’s electronics.
I’m sure I must have seen this before, but it’s not registered with me. I’m not feeling especially driven to share anything personally at the mo, but I appreciate that threads like this exist!
Alive and breathing – had to kill half my savings to pay bills today but gotta keep up the grind for a brighter future…
I announced my retirement from my career yesterday, effective at the end of this month. I’m happy about it and a little unhappy as well.
I’ve come to realize that a lot of my social connections and self-worth all revolve around my career, so I’m in for a big adjustment when that will be over.
mixed…the relationship that needed to end a long time ago ended (again) and I’m both at peace and in mourning.
My eldest son moved out recently, a moment that passed kinda quietly initially, but now is really for my wife and I, slowly beginning to gain huge significance. We aren’t empty-nesters yet, but trying not to worry about what he is doing or going etc takes some adjustment time.
Job is turning to shit. The bosses have lost their ever loving minds. They’re blaming us for low numbers. It’s not the health system’s fault for making plans to build three new medical centers in an election year. It’s us, the employees’ fault, we’re messing around too much instead of working, we’re using personal devices too much, we’re not friendly enough, we’re too apathetic about our work. I never see these problems beyond one or two people on my shift vs day shift where I see this all the time but who am I to say that the darling day shifters do any wrong?
We’re losing two of our supervisors, both of them had important roles to the functionality of the department and the hospital. Plans as to what to do with their roles until they’re replaced? “I don’t know.” With one of them being in charge of scheduling, I doubt I’ll be taking much vacation next year.
One of the few coworkers I can stand is leaving. She’s jumping ship because it’s about to sink. The boss has had it out for her and the whole shift after she was reported by overnights shift for “non work activities.” They hired a supervisor for our shift whom I fear will be used as an enforcer and informant. My bosses have had it out for me too. I think they finally see through the veil and see that I’m not going to kiss their ass, I’m not doing more work than my job requires, I’m not going to snitch on my coworkers unless they’re doing something deliberately illegal or unsafe, and I really don’t pull that many extra shifts. They tried to get me to snitch who is doing “non work activities”, who is on their phones or other devices at work. I said I didn’t know, I don’t mind what people are doing, I just do my job. They weren’t happy and talks have been brief and professional ever since. The people I do have a problem with, I have expressed concerns about along with other people but nothing was ever done. I’m sure my other colleagues I’m friendly with are on their way out too. One is visiting family right now and I wouldn’t be surprised if she was job hunting while she was there.
I always figured to just review my excel and get on base with a couple of more skills this year than start the job search in my 5th year, but if I start getting more miserable than I already am, I may start the job search early. I feel disrespected by my superiors, I feel disrespected by my day shift, I feel disrespected by some people on my shift, and I feel disrespected by some on nights. I don’t feel respected here anymore. I just need to figure out how to get out, my boss likely will not let me transfer, at least without lowering me back down to base pay. I can wait until an outside clinic opens up and has a position open but my boss would be my greatest reference for the field and she’s incredibly petty so she may not provide one. I know I’m definitely not staying for 20 years but I just don’t know what to do. Don’t drop out of college, kids. It narrows your list of opportunities.