UPDATE: I took the suggestions and told him that I felt like he felt a lot more strongly than I did, and I didn’t want to pursue the relationship anymore, and blocked him on all platforms. So far it’s been okay but I have a lot of anxiety about him cropping back up. I’ve had a lot of bad experiences before so it’s hard to not feel paranoid. I’m taking a break from dating apps because I just feel really stressed and overwhelmed by all this.
I (34F) started seeing this guy (30M) recently. I met him on a dating app. The conversation was good, but honestly I didn’t feel big sparks or anything.
After maybe a week he’s suddenly VERY into me, showering me with compliments and telling me how perfect I am. I gave him some pushback by saying he doesn’t really know me yet and I told him not to put me on a pedestal. A lot of this really sounds like love bombing.
I think he is lying to me about himself as well. Without going into a ton of detail, I believe he has lied about making music, how much tax money he is supposedly getting (it’s a ridiculous amount) tomorrow. It’s like one new outlandish thing pops up every day. This is so disappointing because it was unnecessary to try and impress me THAT much.
He also had an incident (he told me this, I did not witness this) that he engaged in violence at work. Supposedly the person was antagonizing him a lot, but I’m a DV survivor and I am NOT about that.
Generally there are a lot of red flags starting to crop up. We did go on one date and it was fine, but I really don’t think I want to pursue this further. I just would like some feedback on what to say, because I predict his reaction would be likely begging, more love bombing, and threats of depression or worse, but also potentially rage which I am really fearful of. He doesn’t know where I live so that’s a plus.