She’s a licensed professional, has built her entire identity around her name, and legally, she’s allowed to keep it. She even offered a compromise: hyphenating both their last names. But he refused said he only wants his last name used, no discussion.
Then things got worse. He got drunk with coworkers (they work in the same org), started loudly calling her “crazy,” and told them, again, that she might as well marry her dad if she wants to keep his name. She didn’t even know he said that until someone discreetly warned her why people had been giving her strange looks.
Now she’s questioning the relationship, and honestly? I’m glad she is. I get that name changes are tradition in some places, but shouldn’t marriage be about building something together not erasing someone’s identity?
Is it really so wild in 2025 for a woman to want to keep her own name?