Hi everyone,
I could really use some advice or outside perspective on a situation that’s been bothering me since I got back from a holiday.
So, I (F, 20) went on a sea holiday with my best friend (F,21). The plan was to enjoy a techno music festival together — just us, something fun for the summer. Leading up to the trip, she had been having serious relationship issues with her boyfriend of two years. They were fighting a lot over the phone, and at the same time, she was getting involved with another guy. Nothing physical had happened before the trip, but it was obvious she was into him and considering doing something.
I gave her honest advice: that she shouldn’t cheat, that this guy seemed like bad news, and that it wouldn’t solve anything. Fast forward to the festival — turns out, he was there too, with some friends.
From the second day on, everything shifted. She spent most of her time with him and his group, who I found really unpleasant. He treated me with total disrespect, and honestly, the whole energy was off. I ended up feeling completely sidelined and left alone multiple times.
The worst part? She broke up with her boyfriend during the holiday, very suddenly. The next day, she ended up taking something and got drugged — and again, I was alone, trying to take care of her and manage everything around her.
I came back from that trip emotionally drained and full of resentment. Now she wants to move out and find a new place, and she suggested we live together temporarily while she figures things out. But I feel like I can't even reply to her texts — my chest tightens with anxiety every time she messages me. I feel like I gave her my time, my energy, and my care, and in return I got pushed aside, disrespected, and emotionally burned out.
I’m torn. A part of me wants to tell her how I feel. Another part just wants to slowly fade out and protect my peace. I’ve known her for years, and this situation makes me question everything.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? Should I talk to her or just take space and move on?
TL;DR:
Went on a sea holiday with my best friend, but she ditched me for a guy she was emotionally cheating with, broke up with her boyfriend mid-trip, and I ended up having to take care of her while feeling completely sidelined and disrespected. Now she wants to live with me temporarily, but I’m feeling anxious, resentful, and unsure whether to confront her or just distance myself.