I’ve been having conversations in chat with several men ATM on Tinder and Bumble for a few days. A lawyer guy who splits time in a few countries, a guy who works in federal government, a creative game developer who is divorced and not interested in marriage any time soon, and a few other men. All kinds of men basically.
But these men just want endless chat. The federal government guy texts me in an ESSAY format…I had to turn on my PC and answer him because he writes huge amount of text omg.
While I’m ok to get to know them, I just want to cut to the chase and meet up with them in person to see if I’m attracted to them or if they can carry conversations with me.
Recently I met up with a guy after only 2 days of chat. We hit it off like no other guys and I liked him a lot only that he had several red flags I couldn’t accept. But those red flags would have never showed up in text as he was very smart. Only in person I could have found out.
So, how can I avoid endless chat with these men and actually go on a date irl?
Is it ok I ask them out as a woman? I’ve never asked out a man only after a few days of chat. Is it not wise? I just don’t enjoy the endless chat anymore. After a week of chatting sure I asked a few men out. But guys usually ask me out. Not sure how I would come across to ask them out only after a few days of chatting.