Hi everyone,
I’m a 48-year-old Latina who’s been living in the U.S. for many years, but I also spend significant time in my home country, where I’ve been gradually building a life and a small business. I own an apartment, land, and a small hotel there that’s still under development but already operating. I return to the U.S. to work, mostly to fund my projects back home. I usually stay for about a year, then go back for another year, and I’ve been rotating like this for the past five years.
I just got back to the U.S. last week and I’m currently unemployed—by choice for now. It usually takes me about a month to find work in my field (social work), and I’m also considering taking a 10-week course soon, so I’m giving myself a little breathing room before committing to a new job.
While I’m in the U.S., I live with my mom to save on rent and focus on my financial goals. We have a great relationship, and she also spends part of the year back home. It just makes sense for both of us. I don’t own property here—just my car—and I work when I’m here to continue investing in my business.
Here’s the thing: I’d love to meet someone serious, but my lifestyle isn’t easy to explain in a dating profile—or on a first date. I prefer to keep most details private until I feel safe opening up, but I’m afraid the surface view (single, living with family, no assets, in-between jobs) might make me seem “stuck” or unambitious, when in reality it’s the opposite.
I’m not interested in casual hookups. I value independence, family, and building something long-term—just maybe not in the most conventional way. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you manage dating while living between countries or having an “untraditional” lifestyle?
Thanks for reading.