- evaluate your own financial background, socio-economic background, family background, social standing, personal characteristics. How much money do you make? Do you make enough to support a family as sole breadwinner or co-support a family with a person of equal status, with aging parents able to take care of grandchildren and willing to take care of them before needing elderly care themselves later on in life? Can you imagine a shared life together with shared family values, cultural backgrounds, religious backgrounds? What is your social standing in society? If you had gone to a low-prestigious school or you have a disability, then you may have a harder chance in pleasing that other family; you would have to work even harder to get their approval and you may have to focus on other areas to win their approval. Most societies in the world do this. Everywhere around the world. The only cultural difference would be who is actually doing it. In more individualistic societies, it is the individual who assesses (and that individual may have blind spots). In more collectivist societies, it is the group who assesses (safety in numbers).
- know your current relationships right now: family members and close friends. Ask around. They may actually know someone. If they don't know anyone, then yeah, you do have to search for your own social group, get to know the people, get along with them, and if they feel comfy with you, they may introduce their own family members to you.
- get a contact of a single person.
- make a date with that single person.
- discuss your own attributes and listen to that other person's attributes and discuss marriage and future life together.
- if you find that person interesting enough and that person finds you charming, then you may enter each other's family groups. And your family members will probably do some of the heavy-lifting work too by bragging about you to the other person.
- attend to big holiday events and family get-togethers, if possible.
- once you feel comfy with that other person's presence in your family and you feel comfy with that person's family, you may plan a marriage date with that other person for a legal marriage, and you tell your family members to make preparations for a cultural celebration of the marriage.
- get married legally.