(Highlighted the important paragraph for those who don’t want to read all of it)

For a couple of reasons this girl (22F) and I (21M) can’t really flirt openly, so I’ve had to make do with dropping subtle non-verbal hints and stressing over whether she’s doing the same or if I’m reading too much into it. The last time we saw each other before summer break I thought it was obvious she liked me (due to touching, being in my personal space too much, suddenly constantly being around/talking to me, teasing etc.), but making a move then was difficult due to the aforementioned reasons (and I was kinda shitting my pants to be honest, girl’s gorgeous).

We talked a little over text later and she suddenly didn’t reply for like 3 days. I’m well aware that people can do this intentionally to tell someone to back off, so next time we saw each other I decided not to (explicitly) flirt as to not make things awkward. We spent a lot of time talking and we were (or I was at the very least) leaning intentionally close to each other with our shoulders touching, though one time she subtly backed off a little when she accidentally got too close, and being convinced that she might have been signaling me to slow down I probably prematurely took this as the end of it.

Plot twist though! A couple hours later a friend told me that on a vacation which the girl I’m into also went on they all got immensely sick on the last day, like projectile vomit kind of sick. This exactly matches the day she stopped replying, so I probably overreacted on that end.

Then later while we were separated she was constantly looking for eye contact across the room. And finally when we were discussing that she very recently broke up with a guy she was semi-casually dating (one of the reasons we couldn’t flirt openly) I said something along the lines of being glad that she broke up with him (I don’t recall the exact conversation as I was a little drunk). She replied saying that she wonders why that is as a rhetorical question. I can’t imagine this being said in any other way than implying that she knows I’m into her, and it’d be unusual to acknowledge someone liking you like that if you didn’t feel the same right? Maybe just maybe she was referring to me being kinda slutty (having implied so earlier too), but again a dangerous game to play if she wasn’t into me too.

Last (maybe not too relevant) thing that happened that night ended was me going someplace else with my friend and her asking if there was anything going on between me and that friend. I reassured her there wasn’t, said our goodbyes and that’s about where we’re at now.

So she’s into me right? I’ve been flip flopping between her liking me and not liking me for some weeks now as described above so I’m genuinely confused. + I need to be careful due to the same reasons I can’t flirt openly.


Leave a Reply