I (F20)just got a second job and my bf (m 21) wants me to quit. We have been dating for 2 years and moved in together 1 year ago.
So basically my first job is 6Am – 1:30pm. We aren’t struggling financially but we do keep having big payments to worry about such as getting my car fixed or paying rent.
I want to go to school to become an aesthetician -about $12K- without taking out any loans or going into any debt but I also don’t want to wait 2 years to start so I decided to get a second job.
The hours are 3pm – 8pm and I try to go to sleep around 9 or 9:30 so I’m not tired and I’ve been working here for about week now and apart from sore feet, I’m fine.
Since I’ve been too busy with work to clean and cook I’ve asked my bf to clean and cook, no big deal right? Aparently it is.
I come home today at 8:30 after asking him to have dinner ready so I can sleep at 9 and when I walk in he’s playing videogames. he gets upset that I say I’ll just make ramen and tells me he wants me to quit my second job. When I ask why all he says is “you don’t get it” when I ask him to explain all I get is “you just dont get it”…. Ofc I don’t that’s why I’m asking????
Anyways, he then says he “hates doing all the house wife things like cooking and cleaning”… 🧍♀️
so I tell him it will only be for a few months till I get half the money and he starts saying that he will get a second job. He already works from 7am – 6pm.
I keep telling him that I want to work for my own school money and to be responsible for it but he keeps saying he will get a second job instead.
He also keeps saying that he doesn’t want me to to overwork myself and I keep saying that I’m fine and if it gets to be too much I’ll just quit.
Is it wrong for me to want to work for my goals instead of making others work for it? Is it wrong for me to ask a “man” to cook and clean??? Because apparently I just don’t get it.
tl;dr my bf (21 M) wants me (20F) to quit my second job. I basically work 6am -8 pm and want to save money for aesthetician school. I come home to nothing after asking my bf to cook dinner and he gets mad saying “you don’t understand” and that he hates doing all the “house wife chores”. We aren’t financially struggling but I want to pay for my own school without taking out any loans and I keep telling him it’s only for a few months.