With social media, dating apps, and all these trends, certain body types are being constantly promoted, eg tall and athletic men, or petite women with certain curves.
On the one hand, that creates unrealistic expectations re ideal partner. But even going beyond that, I do wonder if that's even what we truly desire? Or are these trends brainwashing everyone into thinking that there is such a thing as ideal body type?
Anyway, we are all anonymous here, so: think about the best sex you ever had and be really honest, what was their body type? If you haven't had sex yet, pick the person that you were most "physically" pulled towards.
I'll start: he had a dad bod, taller than me, with a voice on a higher pitch (ie not super masculine), fairly blonde. And the first thing that stuck with me was his voice.
P.s. please remain respectful and avoid objectification.
Edit to add: this question isn't about equating physical attributes with sex, but it could be one contributing factor. I'm mostly curious about how individual preferences align with or deviate from the trending norms…
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Curvy will always be it for me. One of my exes is still the best I’ve ever had, she was a mixed girl with a curvy body but it was slim thick curvy. Overweight women can be a lot of fun too
I dated this super short and thick Latina years ago. Huge boobs, big ass, she blew me away every time. She was fairly crazy and not a good partner, but damn the sex was awesome.
Can’t say it’s what I find most attractive but the best sex by far was with girls on the curvier side
I am attracted to all kinds of women in all shapes and sizes from skinny to curvy. The mental connection and trust is the catalyst and all their parts blend into a single fragrance of attraction. I know its good when my brain processes them as one sexually electrified creature without any part or particular thing being the reason.
5’ 11” dad bod with unbelievably strong arms. I’m petite.
Very short and kinda chubby. We were very much in love and had a beautiful connection
I feel like the obviously popular reply to this would be to say that a classically attractive physique does not equal good sex, but I hate to say that I have to go against that and say it was a hookup with a skinny girl with huge breasts
I’ve never had sex or a girlfriend or partner before so I can really only explain the type of body type I’m attracted to. I find myself being more attracted to the petite and flat chested body type though I also like the normal body and chest size as well. Over weight and big boobs and that kind of stuff in all honestly isn’t all that attractive to me. But looks come in third place honestly first is personality and then second is if they have a job and can hold one.
Two girls, both taller than me. One thin but very in shape looked like a model, the other was thin but slightly bulky and very athletic and both had perfect wide hips. I’m a boob man and the athletic girl had average size boobs which was great because her body size made them seem large. Both incredible views in doggy but unfortunately just one time hookups. I still get massively turned on by large breasts but a girl with a very nice figure and great ass can really sway me. I’m hoping to get with the thin girl again if I ever visit her city and she’s single. We had a blast hanging out before the hookup. I learned I like taller girls or shorties with very large breasts which I’ve been fortunate to also have been with
Personally there’s no correlation between body type and best sex.
I’ve had great sex with various body types though most of them were on the slimmer side. It isn’t like one type stood out, but the slimmer types had more athleticism and stamina in bed. Also, the largest among of them made certain sex positions more difficult from oral to penetration, and I was less excited for the former.
best sex i ever had was with a smaller guy. smaller in height. he was so attentive, romantic and passionate. and was the first guy that ever actually wanted to and cared about pleasing me.
handsome, dark haired, charming. and older than me by ten years.
We meet off bumble! Tall, muscular chubby lol .. sensitive man under his tattoos.. his the only men I actually have felt comfortable with during it. I really enjoy putting a smile on his face and seeing his eyes sparkle..
Skinny girl with long legs, which is my type and 99% of the girls I sleep with
He had a bit of a dad bod but still kind of fit. Jamaican. It was actually during a 3some with my bf at the time. He was the only man that gave me an O through penetration
Physically I like my women thicker what some may consider fat but I love the cushion anyway the best sex I ever had was with a older co worker of mine she was 45 and I was 20 at the time she wasn’t skinny but a lot less curvier than I generally would go for but sex was amazing 🤩
Tight body. Petite blonde. Who I was emotionally very into.
She was petite. Skinny, but curvy in all the right feminine places. Slightly toned, but she wasn’t a gym rat.
Had long dark brown hair, big expressive eyes. Literally the best laugh and sense of humor.
Her ability to just let go and be present made it the most satisfying sex I’ve ever had. Her ravenous libido didn’t hurt, either (6 times in 24 hours was exhausting but worth it). I’m too old to put up those sorts of numbers now though.
I don’t think there is an ideal body type, it all comes down to preference. I also don’t believe that the body type is relevant for the quality of the sex since that is a skill that is partly learned, partly instinct.
That being said I still want to answer your question: he had a solid build. Not overly muscular, not skinmy, just your average guy. He was kinda sporty but not the perfect athlete build you see on Social Media.
I also had a more muscular guy who was good and one skinny guy who was bad but that had nothing to do with his body type and more with him not taking care of my pleasure at all.
A sweet potato
for me, i don’t really mind someone’s general body type, but anything bigger than 6 inches doesn’t feel good. just too much pain. obviously i am more attracted to a fit man, but i’ve never been someone to solely date or hook up purely off of appearance.
Fortunately the person I’m sleeping with at the time is the best sex. My past sex partner experiences could’ve been just thoughts. I barely remember them.
I kinda like this question… it’s a sweet reminder that good sex & body type aren’t mutually exclusive.
Just nice to see that today🤍
Carry on
Short, below 5 ft
Really nice butt- she went to the gym often.
Nice perky breasts, but not huge.
describing his body as “average” feels like i’m not giving him enough credit but I guess it’s that? probably around 5’10, bulky arms, no abs but not chubby either, nice thick legs. just a big boy and ooooof. easily the best and so attentive too. I don’t really have a type though. I like short, tall, skinny, tastefully overweight. the only dudes I’ve ever had a problem with are the mega macho meathead types who look like body builders.
I had the best sex ever with this uncut euro. It was my first time seeing uncut. He was 6’3”, average looking, brilliant and cool. We just connected and he taught me what a bf should be like.
Mine was with a skinnier guy too, but for me, a lot of it comes down to the emotional connection. I cannot sleep with someone unless that connection is there, though I will not lie, sometimes I wish I could just let loose and not overthink it. The guy I am currently seeing as an fwb is also skinny, but he is the biggest I have ever been with, and for me, that just feels better. I definitely have a lot more fun because of it. We also have a really intense emotional bond and a long, complicated history. I honestly feel like he could be the best, but the first and last time we hooked up was actually his first time ever being with someone, so he was still figuring things out. I am seeing him again this Friday 😆 He lives in the state next to mine, so I guess we will see!
skinny af, maybe 5’9, big dick but not so big it destroyed my guts. the man used to struggle with addiction, currently drove a truck, and barely ever ate. but the reason the sex was so good is because i felt safe with him. like beyond a shadow of doubt, deeply, truly taken care of by him. sucks that he was a shit boyfriend in literally every other way.
A Short king (maybe 5’6) who was incredibly strong and in shape.
I’ll never understand a woman who discounts a short king just based on height alone.
It’s about compatibility and not body type or fitting into a beauty standard. The best man I ever had (my boyfriend) is a non athletic guy with a dad bod. He says I’m his best and I’m a skinny fat girl with pretty much no boobs, yet he is obsessed with my hips. Sooo beauty standards are BS.
Best sex partners in my opinion have been the ones who work active jobs and therefore have built in stamina and strength from it. None of them looked overly muscular, they just looked like regular men, but they could just keep going and going. *chef’s kiss
Not a body type but a psychological type for me. Girls with severe mental emotional problems, usually a personality disorder, have proven the most gratifying sexual experiences. Of course that comes with a lot of mental and emotional suffering for me as their partner which just makes me sad that these things have been linked in my experiences so far (and that’s a pretty well explored pattern over multiple decades and numerous partners).
4’11 slightly chubby girl. She was all over the place and I could toss her like it was nothing. Good times!