I travel a decent bit for work and I'm looking for something long term like a life partner but if I say I might be gone in anywhere from 2-8 weeks it's a deal breaker usually and I can't blame them because I can't offer stability in that sense if I might need to leave with very short notice. Has anyone had luck with online dating? Cuz I'm completely failing. I watch tons of girls on tiktok say they want a man and they'll literally be at home Depot asking random men out and I just want that to happen to me once 🙁 Low key fantasize about eating my morning steak and eggs in the hotel lobby and a women approachs me. If rule 2 didn't exist I'd literally ask people on reddit but I don't want to be a creep and people deserve their privacy. Any insight would be greatly appreciated if anyone has gone through this.


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  2. Online dating is a shitshow IMO. We all have fantasies. It would be nice if a beautiful woman stopped me and made conversation. We hit it off right away. I can tell without guessing that she’s interested. We agree to meet for dinner. Then we’re inseparable from that day forward. Can’t get enough of each on many levels. Then I wake up lol

  3. I don’t think your issue is that online dating is hard, it’s your job that’s keeping you from a relationship. I’ve been on the other end of this sort of relationship where my partner traveled a lot for work, and I had to end it. It’s not sustainable to the life I want. If your partner is always gone you’re effectively single. They won’t be there for any ‘life’ things. Let’s say she’s invited to a wedding, she won’t be able to RSVP you as her plus one because she never knows if you’re home. So she has to go alone. Let’s say you’re living together and the refrigerator goes up and leaks all over the floor, you’re not home and she has to deal with it alone. Who wants a life like that? You’re basically single without the perks of being single.

  4. It’s honestly nice to see men wish for these things. As far as the travel for work, if I could trust him/he was trustworthy it would not be a dealbreaker.

  5. Following this! Currently, I am dating someone that I met online while traveling for work (though my kind of travel sounds like it might be different/less frequent than yours), so I have definitely had luck! But I think I got hit with a *serious* stroke of it. I was living in Florida working in higher ed when an institution in Illinois reached out to me to recruit me for a job. I went through the process and was made an offer. Accepted in late March. I lived in Chicago before Florida, and I was very excited to be back.

    Then, I had a series of conferences in Chicago, one scheduled for April and another for June. I matched with this person in April but on my last day in the city. I was upfront about my home base, the job offer, and what I was looking for (a long-term relationship) and we just started chatting. I came back to the city in May for a friend’s kid’s 1st birthday party. We went on our first date then, which was a month after we had matched. It was great! Then, I came back to the city in June for the second conference and we went on a second date. Also lovely! In late June, I came back to house-hunt and we also went out then. 10/10. Shortly after the Fourth of July, he was in Miami for work and asked if I was available to come down. I was, so we spent 2 lovely days together there. I just relocated to Illinois last Saturday and we’ve kept in contact. I have plans to see some friends and him this weekend. We are not exclusive but have had talks about building and deepening our connection. He seems like he’d be an amazing partner.

    Again, I feel like this is all a big stroke of luck and good timing because what are the odds that I find someone smart, attractive, and open to starting a connection when I’m out of state? 😂 I do think it would be a dealbreaker for most people, but if you’re using Hinge, I’d just insert a match note to explain briefly what’s going on with your work life. That’s what I did and since people *had* to see it before we started chatting if we matched, they already knew about my situation and we could proceed from there. Wishing you all the luck here!

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