Me 30(F) and my husband 33(M) have been married for 3 years, no kids. I am an anxious attachment style and always believe that Transparency is the key in the relationship. In a recent argument I told my husband that I feel uncomfortable when every time he takes the phone to the toilet. Mu husband got defensive and blamed it on my trust issues. Deep down, even I agree that I need to work on myself and I have no right to control or dictate anybody’s choices. I have always believed that communication is the key to build a good bond and I have always communicated my feelings openly to him. He is usually a quiet one but deep down he feels I have the power in the relationship and he has to listen to me about everything which I guess makes him feel like I am more controlling towards his choices. I feel guilty now and internally I believe that nothing good comes when you restrict someone or force someone to behave in a certain way rather it only builds resentment in their mind. I feel like asking him to be himself and take the phone if he wishes to but am deep down scared of the wrenching emotion in my gut every time he would do that.
TL; DR: wondering if I did the right thing to ask my husband to leave the phone outside while going to the toilet. I am afraid what he will think about me.