TLDR: Partner has negative behaviours impacting our relationship – can I get her to change?
I love my girlfriend. But I'm finding her increasingly hard work. I think these behaviours have always been there (6+ years) but maybe now l've developed an ick.
She expects to be a princess 24/7.
We argued yesterday because I was out, she was invited but couldn't come due to work. When she got home, I said put your feet up and tell me what you want to eat. I'll order for you. 'Surprise me.
I hate that. Because it's a waste of money if I get it wrong and I can't read her mind. It took 2 hours before I ordered something and she was so ungrateful about it.
She was in a mood today because I didn't send her a nice text to wake up to… and tbh, I knew as I fell asleep to expect that. But I was drunk and tired so just crashed.
She's just rang now headed home from work. I say what do you want to eat? Straight in accusatory 'well I expected a nice roast dinner, but you don't do anything like that for me. Proceed to argue about what does she ever do for me. Why does she have to expect shit all the time and argue when it doesn't go her way?
I might add if she was away I wouldn't get a takeaway sent to me. I wouldn't get a soppy text to wake up to. I wouldn't get a full cooked dinner to come home from work to.
I'm so mad and I feel trapped. I love her, but I can't stand being under the same roof lately and she has nowhere else to go either.
I'm venting. But what the hell is this behaviour and how can I get it to curb? It's draining the life out of me. Nothing positive seems to come out of her mouth.