I have been talking/dating exclusive with let’s call him Jacob for almost 3 months. We recently introduced our fur babies to each other and it went amazing! I knew after the first date he was someone I wanted to spend my life with. He does not want to be in a relationship yet because he doesn’t want to get hurt (she love shamed him and then started taking to other guys 5 months later) and I am not like that. We both say it’s so natural together, and I have never felt this way towards anyone. I cannot imagine my life without him in it, how do I tell him that I’m in love with him without pushing him away?
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“I love you Jacob”
“Im very fond of you”
If you drop the L word too quickly, he might back off
I was also cautious saying I love you too soon. My go to was ‘you know I’m crazy about you right?’ He said it back, then told me he loved me a couple weeks later
I think I’d want to get a bit more clarity around him not wanting to be in a relationship? I get people can be hurt and things from our past impact us but it’s also his responsibility to work through that in order to move forward with you? Like what is different about your current circumstances that “being in a relationship” would change for him other than actually provide you with confirmation and clarity on where you two were heading. Personally, I’d want some confirmation on exactly how he was feeling and where it was headed before telling him. If you hadn’t added in that little bit about the relationship thing (he’s clearly made that clear at some point) I would have just said tell him! But something gives me the feeling you’ve put it in there for a reason, as to thinking you’re not sure where he stands. I could be off the mark, just my thinking!
Wait for him to be ready to hear it. If you love him, just love him. Respect his boundary, and wait for him to be ready.