My husband (M25) and I (F25)have been together for four years now.
We recently got married in March.
He had come home from a work trip and plugged his phone on my side of the bed and he had told me his password had been changed due to some problem with his other Apple device.
I was curious and he has free access to my phone whenever he would like to use it for music, videos, etc.
However I discovered that a year into our relationship as a couple, that he had cheated on me with another women. Which is one of the only two reasons as to a divorce that we mutually agreed on.
I was heartbroken. I called my parents and explained the situation and I eventually confronted him about it this morning. He claimed that he doesn’t remember this altercation or interaction with the woman as he has her blocked but hadn’t deleted his message log.
He’s acting as if though everything’s okay. With the day that is and I feel cheated, betrayed, angry.
We had met in the military and were both stationed in South Korea, after a year he left to Texas and I stayed.
The year that I stayed was when it occurred for a little over two months after a visit I had made to see him.
I’m upset. And feel as if I’m the guilty one.
Is there any advice or guidance that anyone has used to aid with a past experience as I don’t believe in divorce and that this was a one time thing.
My parents had said that it’s not really cheating as it was during the boyfriend phase and that it’s normal. However I grew up learning my morals as though if someone cheats in any relationship it’s a big no no.
TLDR;
Discovered that my husband had cheated in the past during a portion of our relationship while we were dating. Needing any advice as to slowly healing and recovering from the news as we do want to stay together.