I've sort of been going through it this week, and everyone in my life is telling me different things so i thought I'd come on here and ask you guys.
So my husband and I got married three months ago. We've been together for three years and now I just feel like everything has gone down the drain.
We got into a fight a week ago over practically nothing. It was a stupid fight, we were both really stressed all day because of a personal issue, and it sort of just compounded right before we went to bed and we just started yelling at eachother. As we were fighting, my husband just sort of yelled that [ex-girlfriend's name] was right and he shouldn't of rushed into marriage.
I stopped dead in my tracks. It felt like a bucket of cold water had just been poured on top of me. He immediately stopped talking, it was so silent, my body was shaking.
I ran out of the room and locked myself in the spare bedroom for the night. The next morning, I found him in the kitchen, and he looked like he hadn't slept a wink. I felt bad, momentarily, until I remembered what he said.
He ended up confessing that the night before he proposed to me, he had gotten a text from his ex-girlfriend saying she needed to talk to him, he showed me his phone and there the text was. Her asking, practically begging, to see him, and him agreeing.
He explained that she had just been broken up with, apparently this guy was horrible to her and she thought that my husband would be the only person to understand. And they had gotten to talking, and he had told her he was going to propose to me tomorrow, to which apparently she began asking questions about me, about our relationship, stuff he just began willingly divulging, and then she told him that he was rushing into marriage.
According to him, although I have no way to validate any of this, he got up and left, and hasn't talked to her since. He reassured me that last night he was just stressed, he didn't mean it, and that there is not a day that goes by that he doesn't feel like the luckiest man in the world. He was crying, begging me not to leave him.
Things have been tense ever since then. He seems to be overcompensating, or at least he's overdoing it because he feels like that's what I want. I don't know what i want. I don't even know how to begin to process this.
TL;DR:
Husband admitted during a fight that he saw his ex the night before proposing. She told him he was rushing into marriage. He now says he regrets bringing it up and still wants our marriage. I feel totally blindsided and don’t know what to do.