Hey everyone,
I never thought I’d be in this situation, but here I am. I’m in a long-term relationship that, on the surface, looks totally fine. No huge fights, we live together, we get along. But lately, something’s shifted… because I’ve fallen for someone else. My kind coworker.
At first it was just a small connection: we laughed, worked well together. But it’s grown into something deeper. I feel truly seen by him. We click in a way that feels rare and effortless. He’s funny, thoughtful, sharp, and just… kind. He makes me feel calm and alive at the same time.
And I find myself thinking about him constantly. Wanting to text him, talk to him, hear his voice. I haven’t cheated physically, but emotionally? I’m already there.
It’s confusing, because I don’t hate my current partner. But I can’t shake the feeling that what I feel with my coworker is something different. more meaningful. More real. And I think… I might actually love him.
Now I’m stuck. Torn between loyalty to the relationship I’ve built, and a connection I didn’t see coming but can’t seem to ignore. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I don’t want to make a mess. But I’m so lost.
If anyone’s ever been in a similar place? what did you do? How do you even begin to figure out what’s real and what’s not? How do I stop feeling like I’m betraying my partner just by having these feelings?