TLDR: Boyfriend of 2 year’s family knows minimal information about me and refuses to meet me or say why they dislike me. Looking for advice on how to navigate this situation.
I (28F) have been dating my boyfriend for around 2 years. My boyfriend (29M) has a difficult relationship with his family and is not close. He recently told his parents about our relationship (~2-3 months ago). They know minimal information about me such as my age, occupation (engineer), university (state school), how we met (through mutual friend) and some photos of me. They are visiting him and have no interest in meeting me. They have also explicitly told my boyfriend that we are not a good match and refuse to say more details on why. This is the first relationship my boyfriend has told to his parents. General cultural context is that we are both Chinese American.
It seems like this situation is coming down to my boyfriend picking his family or me. I’m seriously concerned about the longevity of the relationship. Looking for advice on how to think about this situation and what boundaries I might want to enforce.