Hi everyone,
To simple it as much as possible. me and my friend have been hanging out for about 2 months.
She got out out of a long relationship almost a year ago, and i got out of an abusive relationship a couple months ago.
About 1 month in we talked about taking it slow and that we both aren’t necessarily ready. I told her i catch feelings so id just prefer we don’t drag it on.
Last week we went to see a movie but when i dropped her off it she wanted to have a conversation that we shouldn’t continue right now. Her main reason is that she doesn’t think she can give me 100% right now. she is starting a new semester at our community college, her work hours suck and we can only see eachother like once a week, if that. During our talk she would say that she doesn’t “know what to do, i obviously gained a lot of feelings for you but i just need to think logically instead of emotionally”. she was kind of crying saying that she likes me so much but she wants to be able to give me 100% first before we start everything and that she feels bad that im waiting.
I tried to play it cool and not say much, just tell her that i respect her decision and that i just want her to be happy. put she kept pushing and pushing to share my feelings. she wouldn’t stop untill i budged. once i started saying how i felt she wouldn’t speak she would just listen and just be so caring and respectful to anything i said, ive never felt that with anyone ive dated before. she would like hold my hand or like rub my arm and such the whole time we talked. it seemed like it really hurt her, i’ve been rejected. but this just seemed a lot different. she said “if im not talking to someone in a couple months and i wanted to try again she would like too. and she was saying that she will see me again and that she wants to prove me wrong.
all in all it sucks because after my last relationship, this girl reallly really is a gem. part of me wants to think she’s letting me down easy and that all her words are bullshit. but at the end she did look at me out the car and said i love you i don’t want to go. i told her to stop that, then i said i love you back (we’ve only said it jokingly) so im just really confused. has anyone ever been in a situation where you liked someone a lot but didn’t want a relationship yet?
Tl:dr. my friend says she has strong feelings for me but can’t give me 100%. i’m confused because her actions seem very genuine but my past wants to think it’s bs.