So yesterday I asked my fiancee (who I've been with for five years) would it be alright if I stayed at my Brother's house on Sunday night, as we are both off work Monday. My plan was to visit my family with her and my baby (14 months) during the afternoon and then head out to his house in the evening. Our evening would have entailed drinking some beer and maybe playing some video games (exciting stuff, I know).
I was surprised when she said that she would like me to wait at home with her and the baby all evening as she didn't want to be on her own. I suggested that she drive into her parents' house and spend the night there, but she said that the baby doesn't sleep well at their place. This is true, but she often spends the night there when I'm working nights.
We had a brief argument about it before the subject was changed. But she could tell I was pissed off.
Some context: It was my birthday this weekend, and I felt like having a few drinks to celebrate it. I work long enough hours and help out with the baby when I'm home. I don't have any commitments outside of work and family, and that's where my time is spent. I haven't been out for a drink in a few months. Both of us are very busy at the moment. Finding someone to look after the baby is difficult and near impossible for overnights. If the roles were reversed, I'd have no problem with her going out either, I'd tell her to enjoy herself. She hasn't even asked for a long time. She is a great mother and a kind person but can be clingy and is used to getting her own way I feel.
I also don't want to say to hell with her and take off and go because the baby is my responsibility too. I don't know how to handle it, and I'm tired of arguing. I just feel like I'm controlled at times. How do I handle this?