Women who chose to have children as a single parent, how did that work out for you?
August 2, 2025
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Better. I was doing it on my own with him in the house anyway so it was easier once it became just myself and child.
Peaceful. When I left I made the decisions without having to placate him. I was already doing practically everything on my own beforehand. I continue to do it all but without an albatross around my neck.
Not a day goes by that I regret leaving my ex before my daughter was born. We have been thriving. She will turn 3 in October. I loved being a single mom until I got with a single dad.
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I was better off. But not having a dad does something to a boy that they never fully recover from. Even with years of therapy, love, and support.
I feel guilty some days and blame myself for her not having a father but then I have to remind myself it isn’t my fault and i’m especially vulnerable 6 weeks postpartum.
I was so much happier single. I never looked back once he was a horrible person and we were not good for each other.
I did it without child support or alimony for most of my daughter’s growing up years. The one or two years I got it was only $100 a month
Very little help from family. It was a struggle but doable. Today would be much harder depending on your income simply because everything is so much more expensive.
If I were in that situation today I’d look for 2-3 other single mom’s to share a house, and expenses with. Then I’d find a grandma who needs to make extra money to help with child care.
I never married. I wanted a child more than a bad marriage. Had my son and he’s the best damn thing in my life! Absolutely no regrets! If I could have afforded I would have like to have had one more. It was hard on one paycheck but my son had everything he needed. I got to make every decision about his upbringing.
It’s pretty peaceful! I was always doing this by myself so cutting the cancer out of our life was pretty easy, I have a little girl and she didn’t need to see the abuse and think it was okay…especially with that asshole telling her so young that being quiet and out of site was how a woman was supposed to be, and her tears over that was enough for me to start turning the page and end that chapter. We smile and have So much fun now 😂🥹 I just wish I did it earlier
I separated when my kids were both under 2.5 years old
It was easier to have 2 kids and not 3 🤣🤣🤣
I have a young friend who’s a single mom (no dad at all) and she finds it super tough. Always on the thinking that if she had a partner this and that would be easier. Although many women around her tell her that’s not always the case, she never experienced it herself, so she finds it extremely hard and tiring.
It sucks only having them 50% of the time but totally worth it for every other aspect of my life. My mental emotional and physical well-being did complete 180. I’m in such a better place.
I have a friend who is doing well for herself and her kid. Got pregnant by accident and decided to keep it. Her original plan was to not say anything to the baby daddy and do it all on her own. In a moment of weakness she told the baby daddy in the late stages of pregnancy. It got messy for awhile because she wanted nothing from him – neither money nor involvement, and he got offended. He was suddenly obsessed about his “legacy”.
Dude took her to divorce court for 50/50 custody and got it just so he could. Hasn’t contacted the child since he won it. Go figure.
My son is only 4 months old right now, but I am absolutely loving single mom by choice life. I don’t have great taste in men, probably would have ended up doing the vast majority of the child care anyway, so at least this way I don’t have somebody disappointing me or expecting me to take care of them as well! Plus my little guy is just an absolute dream, he is such a sweet and fun little boy and I am really loving watching him grow. There is really nothing better than the giant gummy grins he gives me when he wakes up in the morning
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Better. I was doing it on my own with him in the house anyway so it was easier once it became just myself and child.
Peaceful. When I left I made the decisions without having to placate him. I was already doing practically everything on my own beforehand. I continue to do it all but without an albatross around my neck.
Not a day goes by that I regret leaving my ex before my daughter was born. We have been thriving. She will turn 3 in October. I loved being a single mom until I got with a single dad.
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I was better off. But not having a dad does something to a boy that they never fully recover from. Even with years of therapy, love, and support.
I feel guilty some days and blame myself for her not having a father but then I have to remind myself it isn’t my fault and i’m especially vulnerable 6 weeks postpartum.
I was so much happier single. I never looked back once he was a horrible person and we were not good for each other.
I did it without child support or alimony for most of my daughter’s growing up years. The one or two years I got it was only $100 a month
Very little help from family. It was a struggle but doable. Today would be much harder depending on your income simply because everything is so much more expensive.
If I were in that situation today I’d look for 2-3 other single mom’s to share a house, and expenses with. Then I’d find a grandma who needs to make extra money to help with child care.
I never married. I wanted a child more than a bad marriage. Had my son and he’s the best damn thing in my life! Absolutely no regrets! If I could have afforded I would have like to have had one more. It was hard on one paycheck but my son had everything he needed. I got to make every decision about his upbringing.
It’s pretty peaceful! I was always doing this by myself so cutting the cancer out of our life was pretty easy, I have a little girl and she didn’t need to see the abuse and think it was okay…especially with that asshole telling her so young that being quiet and out of site was how a woman was supposed to be, and her tears over that was enough for me to start turning the page and end that chapter. We smile and have So much fun now 😂🥹 I just wish I did it earlier
I separated when my kids were both under 2.5 years old
It was easier to have 2 kids and not 3 🤣🤣🤣
I have a young friend who’s a single mom (no dad at all) and she finds it super tough. Always on the thinking that if she had a partner this and that would be easier. Although many women around her tell her that’s not always the case, she never experienced it herself, so she finds it extremely hard and tiring.
It sucks only having them 50% of the time but totally worth it for every other aspect of my life. My mental emotional and physical well-being did complete 180. I’m in such a better place.
I have a friend who is doing well for herself and her kid. Got pregnant by accident and decided to keep it. Her original plan was to not say anything to the baby daddy and do it all on her own. In a moment of weakness she told the baby daddy in the late stages of pregnancy. It got messy for awhile because she wanted nothing from him – neither money nor involvement, and he got offended. He was suddenly obsessed about his “legacy”.
Dude took her to divorce court for 50/50 custody and got it just so he could. Hasn’t contacted the child since he won it. Go figure.
My son is only 4 months old right now, but I am absolutely loving single mom by choice life. I don’t have great taste in men, probably would have ended up doing the vast majority of the child care anyway, so at least this way I don’t have somebody disappointing me or expecting me to take care of them as well! Plus my little guy is just an absolute dream, he is such a sweet and fun little boy and I am really loving watching him grow. There is really nothing better than the giant gummy grins he gives me when he wakes up in the morning