For context, we’ve seeing each other for about 6 months now, and everything has been going well, all things considered.
The problem here is I feel like her parents are a little too involved. Like whenever we get into an argument and we’re talking it out, she always brings up “even my mom said…” “I told my dad and he said…” and it’s kinda getting to the point where I feel like I’ll never 100% be on the right side of any argument bc she runs it by her parents and they give her pointers and where it’s both sided and now she has ammo to come at me. I’ll give an example..
So she lost her job over the summer, but thankfully I’m financially well off to where I could cover things. I’ve paid for a trip, every other weekend out is on me and eating out as well, and we do go out a fair amount and I took this upon myself bc this time last summer I was in an cheating, abusive relationship and we had two different definitions of fun and I feel like I had to suppress mine for her, so this summer, there’s no excuses , I wanna make up for lost times with my partner. While she has come off appreciative, she picks expensive restaurants, gets expensive drinks, appetizers and desserts when we eat out which run up the tab. Im not mad at that bc I can afford it, but when I come over, shes kinda selfish about her food, like she’ll make comments like she doesn’t want me to get into the habit of eating her food and stuff like that. Often times she’ll ask me to accompany her to the grocery store only to guilt me into paying for thr whole cart when I picked up $10 worth of stuff. I called her out on being selfish with her food and she apologized, but when we were talking it out, she pulled out the “I told my mom and she said..” card and pretty much shared the blame. This is only one example, but there are many more. It’s getting to the point where it’s beginning to upset me. Not a deal breaker yet but def beginning to upset me, but idk how to go about it without sounding controlling. Any advice or comments would be cool, thank you
TL;dr: gf pretty much tells her parents every detail of our relationship and it feels like they give her pointers and ammo to always share the blame even when she’s at fault