I am sensitive. I don’t know why this is such a big deal to me. We haven’t actually ‘fought’ much in our relationship. Tonight we fought. It feels like the first time I let my frustration with her anger visibly show. She gets angry easily and I usually de-escalate pretty well. She was getting angry at me again. Eventually I just plainly said “alright, I’m going home, have a goodnight.” And she yelled ‘fuck you’. I turned around and walked away but god that felt awful for her to say that to me with such vitriol in her voice.
I think she genuinely has anger issues. She called me on the phone and apologized for saying that but she wants me to apologize for pissing her off. Right hand to god, I was not trying to provoke her. I did not insult her or curse at her. I lost my phone at an event and was looking for it when she wanted to leave, that’s why she was angry. The most accusatory thing I said was “why are you getting so angry?”.
I apologized but she wanted me to take accountability for the whole fight even though I was pretty hurt. I told her I was going to go home and we’d see each other tomorrow. I told her I loved her and immediately hung up.
Is this normal? Is there a way to overcome this?