I’m going the “find someone out in the wild” route and frequent places with interests I have (volunteering, estate sales, thrift stores, coffee shops, etc). I want to play a proactive role in dating rather than waiting for something to just happen to me. This was my first time approaching a guy directly. I went up to him, we exchanged names and I said that “I don’t often see attractive guys thrifting here, and I’m challenging myself to approach in the wild instead of dating apps so I was wondering if you’re seeing anyone or available?” Because he was holding clothes I hadn’t seen his wedding ring but he said he was happily married and then proceeded to say that I did a great job approaching, that was really brave, and now that I’ve got the first one out of the way all the other times might feel much easier! I wished him a continued happy marriage, he wished me luck in finding my person, and we went our separate ways!
It was the best interaction because he was so kind and encouraging while also instilling hope that good, faithful men are still out there! I’m proud of myself for being brave, let’s hope my man is out there somewhere!
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Props to you! I wish I had the confidence you did!
I bet you made his day – your confidence is v inspiring!
Aw I love this!!
Why not more women do this?
Very inspiring! Good-luck!
Heck yea! Good for you. And any guy would love to be approached like that. It’s refreshing to hear that this happens.
Proud of you 😁🫂
👏👏👏👏👏
Kudos to you!!
What more can a guy want. You are heaven send.
That’s really good way!!
I’ve approached people but just to compliment them!
I did the same thing with the same outcome. The man was beyond nice and it was truly nice to see an extremely hot and loyal man. It gave me hope that there are still good men out there.
I just saw the cutest guy at my favorite taco place smiling at me and my shy dumb ass just buried my face on my phone. I was debating asking him if he wanted my phone number but he was with a friend so if I got rejected in case I was imagining things there would be witnesses lol. Good for you OP, you had the chance and you took it. I’ll try next time even if I get rejected, fuck it 🫣
Hey, out of curiousity, what made him look approachable? I would really like to begin dating but can’t seem to find a way to approach or look approachable.
I wish i could approach women like this as well
Awwww. So proud you tried!
When it does work one of these days, you can go on thrift store dates! Good luck to you.
Keep doing this and you’ll find a guy in no time.
two lovely people
As a 31yo man you definitely would have made his day/week and he for sure took it as a compliment.
Good on you for giving it a go! You win some & you lose some but don’t feel discouraged! Well done on being brave and having such a great mindset about it
You rock!!! Best of luck to you! Just use care when you approach someone and above all, be safe.
Wow! That’s so inspiring and thanks for sharing. Because you are taking matters into your own hands, you can choose whom you find more interesting instead of waiting for them to approach you (which they typically never do) so no missed connections.
This is amazing and really made my night to read! Thanks for sharing the positivity and inspiring us to try something similar 🤗
You are brave and it does get easier! Although IMO “approach in the wild” sounds a bit cringey so I think I’d change the wording on that, or really you don’t even need to explain why you’re asking, other than you don’t often see attractive guys around. Any guy would be happy to hear that I think!
That’s really cool! You’re inspiring me to try the same. I like the way you worded it.
You’re actually going to light up the day of strangers whenever you do this, seriously, if a girl did this to me, relationship or not, I’d remember it forever.
Keep it up, I’m thinking of the same approach as a 21M, but I’m kinda settling down in life for the time being, so I’ll let things happen naturally (if they do at all).
You’re amazing, the last girl who approached me was actually just trying to get me to donate, but when she realized what I had thought, she started hitting on me and it felt awesome but I thought she had ulterior motives since she was after all pushing me to donate, so I just walked away. Us dudes are gonna be really flattered and would likely turn you down very kindly, honestly wish girls would do this more often because men are very simple creatures so relationships would blossom much more of girls were to approach too!
Good for you!