This might be a pretty general question but how do women generally deal with loneliness?
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I don’t have a good answer for you. When I’ve felt lonely, I usually either distract myself by doing things I like to do alone, or I look up a local social event I’m interested in.
Usually I just cry in bed at the evening until I get a headache and fall asleep
I never get lonely
Loneliness feels like a permanent state for me and has been for a really long time. Unfortunately I haven’t found a way to deal with it. My game face is good but it cripples me every minute of every day.
When I feel lonely, I reach out to my friends and family and let them know I’m lonely. Or as another commentor said, distract myself with activities I like to do.
I rarely feel lonely, but if I do, I’ll go for a bike ride, smoke a little weed, or do some shopping.
I feel the feeling. Too often we are hell-bent on avoiding uncomfortable feelings. So the immediate response would be to avoid it and distract yourself somehow, but usually, that’s how you end up in poorly advised situations and make regrettable decisions.
Embrace it, feel it, explore it, listen and understand it. What is it trying to tell you? Journal it, draw it, locate it in your body, make you a cup of tea and sit quietly, take a walk and see where your thoughts lie. We are fully human with a full spectrum of feelings. There are no “good or bad feelings”. Embrace your complexity, stay curious. How wonderful we get to feel at all.
Look up and attend free events in my city, go for a walk, call my sister, go to the park, watch something funny.
The loneliest I’ve ever felt was in a relationship though, so once I shed him I didn’t feel lonely often.
Smile all the time.
Remind myself how annoying people are.
I make pretend – I debate with myself (like as if there’s someone beside me), I bring out my soft toys to have dinner with me (like as if there’s companion), I listen to music (so that the room is not so quiet), I imagine scenarios in the past where I’m surrounded by friends and family, I tell myself the next day will be better (brainwashing).
Me personally , I embrace it. I feel it. I get out of the house, whether it’s a road trip, a drive around town , or a walk.
Listening to music and feeling the wind in my hair is soothing. In the off season I’ll take a book to the beach and get lost in the sounds.
These things somehow make me feel less lonely. I enjoy my solitude and I just aim to do something that brings me joy. Even a solo dinner date.
I never feel lonely despite much time alone . Why is that?
I got a dog. then a second dog. My first pup forced me to go outside more. I met some cool people at Dog parks and Neighbours I would have never met. My social group grew.
Friends. Make friends with my friend’s friends. Write a lot. Make art.
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I’ve just been sleeping away everything
Discord.
I’m on a few public server and when I feel like I want to talk I’ll just join a random voice chat.
Some people are mean, some flirty, some annoying but it usually helps and you might even find some friends.
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I don’t have a good answer for you. When I’ve felt lonely, I usually either distract myself by doing things I like to do alone, or I look up a local social event I’m interested in.
Usually I just cry in bed at the evening until I get a headache and fall asleep
I never get lonely
Loneliness feels like a permanent state for me and has been for a really long time. Unfortunately I haven’t found a way to deal with it. My game face is good but it cripples me every minute of every day.
When I feel lonely, I reach out to my friends and family and let them know I’m lonely. Or as another commentor said, distract myself with activities I like to do.
I rarely feel lonely, but if I do, I’ll go for a bike ride, smoke a little weed, or do some shopping.
I feel the feeling. Too often we are hell-bent on avoiding uncomfortable feelings. So the immediate response would be to avoid it and distract yourself somehow, but usually, that’s how you end up in poorly advised situations and make regrettable decisions.
Embrace it, feel it, explore it, listen and understand it. What is it trying to tell you? Journal it, draw it, locate it in your body, make you a cup of tea and sit quietly, take a walk and see where your thoughts lie. We are fully human with a full spectrum of feelings. There are no “good or bad feelings”. Embrace your complexity, stay curious. How wonderful we get to feel at all.
Look up and attend free events in my city, go for a walk, call my sister, go to the park, watch something funny.
The loneliest I’ve ever felt was in a relationship though, so once I shed him I didn’t feel lonely often.
Smile all the time.
Remind myself how annoying people are.
I make pretend – I debate with myself (like as if there’s someone beside me), I bring out my soft toys to have dinner with me (like as if there’s companion), I listen to music (so that the room is not so quiet), I imagine scenarios in the past where I’m surrounded by friends and family, I tell myself the next day will be better (brainwashing).
Me personally , I embrace it. I feel it. I get out of the house, whether it’s a road trip, a drive around town , or a walk.
Listening to music and feeling the wind in my hair is soothing. In the off season I’ll take a book to the beach and get lost in the sounds.
These things somehow make me feel less lonely. I enjoy my solitude and I just aim to do something that brings me joy. Even a solo dinner date.
I never feel lonely despite much time alone . Why is that?
I got a dog. then a second dog. My first pup forced me to go outside more. I met some cool people at Dog parks and Neighbours I would have never met. My social group grew.
Friends. Make friends with my friend’s friends. Write a lot. Make art.
[removed]
[removed]
I’ve just been sleeping away everything
Discord.
I’m on a few public server and when I feel like I want to talk I’ll just join a random voice chat.
Some people are mean, some flirty, some annoying but it usually helps and you might even find some friends.