My ex and I have been broken up for nearly 10 months now.
We had an on/off rs that lasted almost 3 years.
Throughout that time, he repeatedly broke up with me especially when things got difficult. Every time we were off he would see other women. Yet somehow, he always came back to me.
For a long time, I took that as proof that he must really love me and I must be special to him in a way. But eventually, I had to face the truth: if he genuinely loved me, he wouldn’t have kept hurting me. He wouldn’t have walked away when I needed him most or entertained other women, even casually.
Since our final breakup last October, I’ve been more consistent with my boundaries and kept my distance. But even then, he reached out twice:
– once asking for help, almost like trying to keep me emotionally tied to him, and another time out of jealousy. We even ran into each other a few weeks ago, and he acted like we were old friends, casually asking how I’ve been told me what he’s up to (he’s in med school preparing for his finals).
And here’s the part I struggle with: if he doesn’t love me, why won’t he just leave me alone?
Male perspective would be appreciated.
This was never about sex though we rarely had that kind of relationship. Our bond was more emotional than physical..