Hi,
( Sorry my reddit post maybe all over the place )
Me and my bf have been together for 2 years. He broke up with me last year because he felt unhappy in the relationship . 4 months later, came up back and told me he made a huge mistake
Yesterday, we got into an argument. He was feeling unwell and hoped I’d check up on him. The day before, I got him some pain medication and looked for doctors appointments and borderline begged him to go.
He spoke to me yesterday in what feels like hurtful . He said you didn’t even check up on me throughout the day. I told him I’m on my period, my parents were fighting and I was so busy at work and emotional. He said
“ all you do is think about yourself, why don’t you take accountability for your actions and stop blaming others “.
I started crying because it’s my responsibility as the oldest daughter to take care of everything. I was also emotional because I thought out of everyone around me, he would understand. I wasn’t met with compassion . I understand he wanted me to checkup , but he hit me with the “ I feel like you don’t even like me, even people who don’t know me were checking up on me”.
He hit me with the “ I feel like you’re using me “ which is stupid because I never ask him for anything.
How can he say I don’t care when I was trying to book appointments and got him meds the first day he got sick?
I felt like crap. I was emotional because I had a hard day. He sent me an ultimatum saying if we don’t meet up and talk , his going to assume I made my decision.. in the most passive aggressive way .
Our relationship was perfect until yesterday. I’ll be honest, and say he does a lot for me. He doesn’t work and I do so I barely have time like he does.
I guess what I want to know was I in the wrong? I want to show him that I am willing to walk away and don’t like being spoken to like that smh.
I’m kind of hoping he comes back if I do send him that message