So I’ve been dating this incredible man for a few months now; only issue, he’s technically married; legally separated. 🤦♀️
I met him through mutual friends because he was going through a divorce and wanted advice on being a single parent. I was the only single parent our mutual friends knew, so they had him reach out. Long story short, I think I’m in love but I’m really trying to not freak out.
Due to his separation, he’s kinda broke. He has full custody of his kiddos. He’s working side jobs and selling bits and pieces to make ends meet and pay lawyer bills throughout the process. I admire this. But I also have concerns.
He invest his time and energy into me, but not so much his money. I’m fine with this for the time being because I’ve been in his position but if we were to continue a future I would never want separate finances. (But going Dutch was my idea for the time being because I felt like I had to do tit for tat every time he paid for something because I know his financial position at the moment).
When we first started talking just as friends, I said to him that I just wanted to be a mom and I just wanted to be able to be a wife and actually support my family and maybe have a part time job. He knows what I want and seems to support the idea if we’d get there.
Originally when we first started this, he would starve himself for a few days to pay for the date to take me on. I didn’t like that, so I stopped the formal dates and just told him let’s just hang out and do errands together as we are both busy.
It makes me wonder though, will I be a priority when he gets through this tunnel or am I putting myself too far on the back burner? Am I dating for potential? He’s showing me he has drive, but am I going to be included in that?
He still makes me feel special in every way, but I feel like men think with their wallets and often times, if they don’t have a financial investment, they’re not as invested.
Ages: 30s