I (23M) have been talking to a girl (24F) for about 2 months now. We recently went on our third date, where I told her I like her and want to commit to a serious relationship. She said she likes me back but isn’t ready to date me.
A few days later we called and she told me why: she’s very scared of penis-vagina (PIV) sex and didn’t want to disappoint me after officially dating. She’s never had PIV sex in any of her past relationships, with the longest one being 2 years. She also mentioned her parents are conservative Christians which may have contributed to this fear, and that she may be willing to try PIV sex eventually if she finds someone she wants to marry or feels safe enough (but doesn’t know if this will happen).
I like this girl a lot and knowing this doesn’t change my feelings for her. Problem is, I’ve only had one past relationship so I’m not sure how much sexual intimacy I require. She is willing to try other non-PIV forms of sex, and as of now this should be enough to fulfill my sexual needs. However, I feel my needs will slowly evolve and at some point I will need PIV sex to feel satisfied.
To be honest, I don’t think I can do a PIV-less relationship for life, but I also know I shouldn’t go into this relationship expecting her to change eventually. In my past relationship, my partner had a higher sex drive than me which sometimes made me feel pressured to match her energy. The circumstances are very different but I really don't want to pressure her the same way.
This is a very tricky situation, so I’d like to know if anyone has ideas on what I should do. Any thoughts are welcome. Thanks.
TL;DR;: A girl I like told me she is scared of sex and I don’t know if/how I should progress the relationship
Edit: I don’t think “try anal” is a way out of this situation yall, im honestly not comfortable with butt stuff and I don’t think she is either